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<blockquote data-quote="Sister's Keeper" data-source="post: 679294" data-attributes="member: 20051"><p>Thank you.</p><p></p><p>I know that, intellectually, but emotionally, the guilt is always there. She knows it, too, because when she is desperate it gets thrown at me. It has been a long road to get to the point where I don't let it affect me. She had my life in turmoil for some time. THAT was my fault for allowing it. </p><p></p><p>I really want what is best for the kids, and I think a forever home is it. I need them to know that whatever happens with their mother that we love them and always will and they will always have a home and family. I owe my own stepmother a huge debt for being a mother to me when my own couldn't be bothered. It, probably, saved my life. </p><p></p><p>My sister is a career inmate, and a good one at that. She chose this option because she knows she wont do 5 years. Probably a year and a half, tops. She will get a prison job and earn commissary money and, honestly, she is a model prisoner, and will get all kinds of good behavior time off her sentence. She is, underneath it all, a very sweet and loving person. She throws the guilt stuff in my face, but when she cleans up, she always apologizes. She has never, ever been violent toward another person in her life. All her crimes are shoplifting and prostitution. </p><p></p><p>I'm actually almost sad to say this, but her quality of life would actually improve if she spent the rest of her life in prison. She actually does well there. </p><p></p><p>I came across this board on a random internet search. I was sure, after reading a lot of the stories that there must be some folks here raising non bio kids of addicted parents. That could give me some advice, or, at least, the right way to phrase this. We have been in counseling a lot, and will go back, but in the interim....</p><p></p><p>I have a coworker raising her grandkids for the same reason, but they are older and they know their mother is a drug addict. Her scary story is that they called her from a crack house after her daughter got arrested and she had to go to the crack house to pick them up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sister's Keeper, post: 679294, member: 20051"] Thank you. I know that, intellectually, but emotionally, the guilt is always there. She knows it, too, because when she is desperate it gets thrown at me. It has been a long road to get to the point where I don't let it affect me. She had my life in turmoil for some time. THAT was my fault for allowing it. I really want what is best for the kids, and I think a forever home is it. I need them to know that whatever happens with their mother that we love them and always will and they will always have a home and family. I owe my own stepmother a huge debt for being a mother to me when my own couldn't be bothered. It, probably, saved my life. My sister is a career inmate, and a good one at that. She chose this option because she knows she wont do 5 years. Probably a year and a half, tops. She will get a prison job and earn commissary money and, honestly, she is a model prisoner, and will get all kinds of good behavior time off her sentence. She is, underneath it all, a very sweet and loving person. She throws the guilt stuff in my face, but when she cleans up, she always apologizes. She has never, ever been violent toward another person in her life. All her crimes are shoplifting and prostitution. I'm actually almost sad to say this, but her quality of life would actually improve if she spent the rest of her life in prison. She actually does well there. I came across this board on a random internet search. I was sure, after reading a lot of the stories that there must be some folks here raising non bio kids of addicted parents. That could give me some advice, or, at least, the right way to phrase this. We have been in counseling a lot, and will go back, but in the interim.... I have a coworker raising her grandkids for the same reason, but they are older and they know their mother is a drug addict. Her scary story is that they called her from a crack house after her daughter got arrested and she had to go to the crack house to pick them up. [/QUOTE]
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