...my frustration and inability to calm down enough to implement some of the things suggested here and in the books (I've read them all). My 5 year old son was born "hyper" and into everything...the babyproofing we did for our older 2 children was not enough for him. When he was 2 or 3 we began to notice his opposition to everything we wanted him to do. This continued into preschool and he is now in Kindergarten with the same, but more intense, opposition and defiance. Luckily it mainly happens at home, but I have had to pick him up at school this year because he refused to comply with a request to clean up his own mess in the lunchroom. He shuts down and won't look at adults, or says no and won't look at them. At home he shrieks and won't comply. He won't get ready in the morning and our other 2 kids are late sometimes because of it. He requires very little sleep, although sometimes he is way more crabby than usual because he got up at 5 am after going to sleep at 10 pm, but he sure won't nap. He was evaluated as possibly ODD a year ago, and we have been seeing a psychotherapist for the last couple months, but she has only been able to focus on getting him to be potty trained again. Since he started Kindergarten, he has been pooping regularly in his pants and refusing to use the toilet, saying he does not have to go although we can smell it! He never really did get potty trained when he was 2/3 like we thought he did, he just keeps having accidents because he is too busy to go. I am buying new underwear every other week because we have to throw it away. The worst is that he is so demanding that my other 2 children get no time/attention because we are always responding to the needy one. I am so frustrated that working on a plan with a kid who is not motivated by ANYTHING (sticker charts, prizes, special trips, etc.) feels nearly impossible. Everyone in our house is suffering from my frustration and anger. Quite frankly I feel like they never leave me alone, especially the 5 year old who needs constant attention and supervision. The other 2 are older and really good about taking care of themselves, but how do I calm down enough to take the time to TRY to get the little one to respond normally to requests? I have physically carried him into the car in the morning to get everyone to school in time, I carry him to his room at night (with frustration, I might add) for bedtime, and none of this is good for him or me. I'm sorry, I see others on this site with way more on their plates, but I think you all must have been born with more patience than I. How do you devote MORE time to someone who is already demanding nearly all your free time? And I know life is not fair, but how can I make it feel more fair for my other 2? Thanks for listening.