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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 681201" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Canuck,welcome to the forum, and so sorry for your sons troubles that have brought you here. It is hard when our adult children have challenges, and there is not much <em>we</em> can do for them. I am sorry for the heartache of it.</p><p>My experience is a bit different from yours, but I have had to lovingly detach from my two daughters. It is mostly due to addiction and substance abuse, I am pretty sure by now, that there are some mental challenges that come along with the drug use.</p><p></p><p>Yes, detaching does pertain to depressed adult children as well as those with other challenges. We will not be around forever to rescue our adult children. They have got to find a way to live their lives without our rescuing them. It is out of kindness and concern, to step back and allow our adult children to figure life out. We run a great risk of creating such a dependency on us that when we pass, our kids won't know what to do. Depression is a treatable illness. If his girlfriends family are fine with him isolating in their basement, this is not healthy. He is an adult, so he needs to recognize the need for help. What can you do?</p><p></p><p>You have so much on your plate with your husbands illness. I am sorry Canuck, that is hard enough to deal with.</p><p></p><p>You have done everything you can for your son. It is up to him to want something different for himself.</p><p></p><p>More folks will come along and share. Weekends can be a bit slow. I am so sorry for your troubles Canuck, you have landed at a very good place to receive advice and understanding. Keep posting, it really helps to be able to write things out and have responses from the kind folks here.</p><p></p><p>You are not alone.</p><p></p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 681201, member: 19522"] Hi Canuck,welcome to the forum, and so sorry for your sons troubles that have brought you here. It is hard when our adult children have challenges, and there is not much [I]we[/I] can do for them. I am sorry for the heartache of it. My experience is a bit different from yours, but I have had to lovingly detach from my two daughters. It is mostly due to addiction and substance abuse, I am pretty sure by now, that there are some mental challenges that come along with the drug use. Yes, detaching does pertain to depressed adult children as well as those with other challenges. We will not be around forever to rescue our adult children. They have got to find a way to live their lives without our rescuing them. It is out of kindness and concern, to step back and allow our adult children to figure life out. We run a great risk of creating such a dependency on us that when we pass, our kids won't know what to do. Depression is a treatable illness. If his girlfriends family are fine with him isolating in their basement, this is not healthy. He is an adult, so he needs to recognize the need for help. What can you do? You have so much on your plate with your husbands illness. I am sorry Canuck, that is hard enough to deal with. You have done everything you can for your son. It is up to him to want something different for himself. More folks will come along and share. Weekends can be a bit slow. I am so sorry for your troubles Canuck, you have landed at a very good place to receive advice and understanding. Keep posting, it really helps to be able to write things out and have responses from the kind folks here. You are not alone. (((HUGS))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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