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<blockquote data-quote="Losing_Resilience" data-source="post: 11548" data-attributes="member: 3339"><p>Hi Susan,</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry to hear about all you've been going through! My daughter of about the same age was sneaking out in the middle of the night and getting in the car also. Not sure if she or others were driving it around or not, but she at least turned in on in the garage, and could have been asphixiated!</p><p></p><p>I also put a killswitch on my car, as someone else here mentioned. It cost $150 to have it installed (although another mechanic might charge less). Mine is up under the dashboard where it is very hard to find unless you know where to feel. I switch if off when I leave the car - if anyone tried to start it, it would just sound like the engine was trying to turn over, but it would never start up. </p><p></p><p>I think putting the club on also is a good idea. </p><p></p><p>My daughter, on top of her difficult child issues, is going through the "terrible teens", and boy, is it ever tough. She desparately wants to get away from me and my rules, which are just the normal, standard rules most families have, about wanting to know where they are, etc.</p><p></p><p>Here is an example of her difficult child logic: we recently took in her friend and her friend's mother for a few days because they were on the run from the mother's boyfriend. The mother is temporarily homeless (has now moved in with a friend), and the daughter has now moved back with the grandparents, but they are upset because daughter put dad in jail for hitting her. The daughter just turned 17 and had also been very rebellious. They were very nice and responsible guests at our house. Anyway - here's the difficult child logic part - when we were at the therapist yesterday, my daughter says to the therapist that she wanted to go live with this friend! The therapist looked confused and said, "Where? I thought she didn't have anyplace to live?" So in my daughter's eyes, being jobless and semi-homeless is preferable to following my rules. I guess to her it is!!!</p><p></p><p>I'm veering between consistant rules and compromises, trying to keep her safe but also trying not to drive her away. Obviously, I'm not succeeding to well. When you find the magic solution, please let us all know!</p><p></p><p>Seriously, though, we're all here for you and we understand and send you good wishes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Losing_Resilience, post: 11548, member: 3339"] Hi Susan, I'm sorry to hear about all you've been going through! My daughter of about the same age was sneaking out in the middle of the night and getting in the car also. Not sure if she or others were driving it around or not, but she at least turned in on in the garage, and could have been asphixiated! I also put a killswitch on my car, as someone else here mentioned. It cost $150 to have it installed (although another mechanic might charge less). Mine is up under the dashboard where it is very hard to find unless you know where to feel. I switch if off when I leave the car - if anyone tried to start it, it would just sound like the engine was trying to turn over, but it would never start up. I think putting the club on also is a good idea. My daughter, on top of her difficult child issues, is going through the "terrible teens", and boy, is it ever tough. She desparately wants to get away from me and my rules, which are just the normal, standard rules most families have, about wanting to know where they are, etc. Here is an example of her difficult child logic: we recently took in her friend and her friend's mother for a few days because they were on the run from the mother's boyfriend. The mother is temporarily homeless (has now moved in with a friend), and the daughter has now moved back with the grandparents, but they are upset because daughter put dad in jail for hitting her. The daughter just turned 17 and had also been very rebellious. They were very nice and responsible guests at our house. Anyway - here's the difficult child logic part - when we were at the therapist yesterday, my daughter says to the therapist that she wanted to go live with this friend! The therapist looked confused and said, "Where? I thought she didn't have anyplace to live?" So in my daughter's eyes, being jobless and semi-homeless is preferable to following my rules. I guess to her it is!!! I'm veering between consistant rules and compromises, trying to keep her safe but also trying not to drive her away. Obviously, I'm not succeeding to well. When you find the magic solution, please let us all know! Seriously, though, we're all here for you and we understand and send you good wishes. [/QUOTE]
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