This is my first post. I do not know if I'm posting in the correct spot. My difficult child, daughter, age 27 is like a rogue wave that just keeps on pounding. I feel absolutely defeated, worn out and without hope. Her diagnosis is currently mood disorder, migraines and possibly partial seizure disorder. Her EEG's are normal (she has had two, one in the office and one extended three day testing), MRI's normal, MRA's normal. As of 8 days ago her medications are depakote and zoloft. Prior to that her psychiatrist had her on vyvance twice a day for ADD, which led to the two most craziest months yet. He also had her on klonapin (sp?) three times a day. Her new neurologist dropped those last two, which has helped some, but she is still really out of sorts. She has four children. Two from a first marriage, boy age 9, daughter age 7. Two from her current marriage, girl age 2, boy age 1. Her current husband is hanging on by a thread. He is now being treated for major depression and mood disorder. The older two have spent most of last year with me. My daughter's behavour is getting more and more unrealistic. Everyone around her is the "reason she has a problem". Nothing is her fault. She is agitated 24/7. Most of January she was out every evening, meaning she would get the kids to bed and just leave. Two nights she did not come home at all. My son in law had to call me to go over early so he could go to work. I got the oldest two to school and someone to care for the babies. She got in a fight with her father (my ex) in December. Literally a fight, and her arm was broken. He says she stormed in on him and he was simply holding her back. She says he attacked her. Last week she hit her husband when he would not give her the car keys to leave in a snow storm and bruised his face. And yes, she took their new car out in a driving snow storm to have dinner with her friends. She claims to not remember hitting him. She claims to not remember the nasty things she says. She claims to not be gone as much as she is....... on and on and on. I'm scared for her. But I can not control her. I'm sick that my grandchildren have to be worried about where thier mother is and that they hear her yell and scream. Her husband is trying to keep his cool and not provoke her, as best I can tell. He has been hanging on and trying to keep the home-life as settled as possible hoping for the right medicine or combo of medications to work. He wants to save the marriage and keep the family together, but he is getting worn down physically and emotionally. He and I are cleaning the house (when it gets so bad no one can stand it) and doing the laundry (when it gets to the point the kids have nothing clean to wear). She just makes excuse after excuse for everything she doesn't do and for the things she does that she shouldn't be doing. He and I work, she does not. I'm just defeated. I do not know what else to do. I do not know how to protect my grands. I spoke with an attorney and she says I don't have enough to take them. I really don't want to take them, but if she doesn't calm down I do not see how they can be stable there. There is just so very much more to this. This is getting long and my thoughts are jumbled, there is just so much. How in the world do you all hang on. At this point, I've got nothing left. I know I have to find strength to hang in there because of the kids. If I try to back away from her, she cuts the kids off from me too. I can't let that happen, so I take much more from her than I would otherwise. I do not know how to help. How do you all do it? I do not offend easily, so ANY and ALL responses are welcomed and appreciated. Anyone else dealing with grandkids that you are trying protect, with a difficult child that still will not admit the gravity of their situation and problem? Thanks for listening. No one I know understands. They think you can just "make" her shape up. Yeah, right. Don't I wish. Gran.