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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 627951" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Sosad, welcome.</p><p></p><p>For me, detachment has been more about learning to identify and detach from my emotions about what is happening to my children than it has been about detaching from my children themselves. For me, detachment was about learning to see what was helpful for the kids in how I responded to them, and which behaviors of mine were undermining them. I had developed something like PTSD where my kids were concerned. I would panic and go into ~ I don't know. Some weird emotional place where I wasn't even able to think. I would function on automatic and lose myself somewhere in the process. So, for me, detachment from my own emotional responses was helpful. Once I was actually functioning rationally, I made different kinds of decisions. I think those changes in my responses have been very good for all of us. </p><p></p><p>Your son is very young and, as Recovering noted, he is considerate of you, and he is kind to you. I don't know why life has to be so hard for some of us, but I do know that it breaks something inside me to see my children hurting, or lost in a place I cannot help them out of.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry for the pain of what is happening to you, and to your child, sosad.</p><p> </p><p>I am glad you found us.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 627951, member: 17461"] Sosad, welcome. For me, detachment has been more about learning to identify and detach from my emotions about what is happening to my children than it has been about detaching from my children themselves. For me, detachment was about learning to see what was helpful for the kids in how I responded to them, and which behaviors of mine were undermining them. I had developed something like PTSD where my kids were concerned. I would panic and go into ~ I don't know. Some weird emotional place where I wasn't even able to think. I would function on automatic and lose myself somewhere in the process. So, for me, detachment from my own emotional responses was helpful. Once I was actually functioning rationally, I made different kinds of decisions. I think those changes in my responses have been very good for all of us. Your son is very young and, as Recovering noted, he is considerate of you, and he is kind to you. I don't know why life has to be so hard for some of us, but I do know that it breaks something inside me to see my children hurting, or lost in a place I cannot help them out of. I am sorry for the pain of what is happening to you, and to your child, sosad. I am glad you found us. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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