hello everyone. I'm with all the other newbs and am so thankful for finding a site where people actually understand having a difficult child! my story... my daughter is 5 1/2. She has no diagnosis yet but we think she is gifted and possibly Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) and ODD. She is extremely sensative and emotional. The smallest things can trigger all out fits. We are starting the process of getting her tested (appointment with pediatrician this coming friday). because of the opinions on this forum i'm going to push for a neuro-psychiatric test. we have been a squeaky wheel with- her teachers because the work they are doing is stuff she mastered a few years ago. her teacher refuses to give her harder work (even though they are supposed to). my last few days.... last thursday my daughter's day care called and said she needed to be picked up immediately. she was screaming and spitting at the teacher. I was not told what started the fit only that they couldn't handle it anymore. When I got there I was informed that she was not welcome back. Talk about stress! Her K class is only 3 hours long. husband and I both work full-time an hour from home. The daycare she was going to was on the school grounds. We do not have anyone that can pick up/take her to daycare after school. So... friday my husband and I both take off work (I do not get paid for days off) and talk with- her principle. This is when we find out that she has been in her office half dozen times already (we were not told once!). We talk with- the principle and are told that her tantrums are not normal and come about because she is spoiled! She also said "tantrums do not continue unless they work somewhere". She denied that difficult child was acting out because she was bored (even though she's getting in trouble for talking to other kids during work time after she's already finished her work). So! Today is the first day for difficult child at a new daycare (we found one down the street that has a bus to take and pick her up from school), the first day of a new schedule at school (parent-teacher conferences), AND first day with a new teacher (back from maternity leave)!!! Of course you can see where that's leading. I get a call from the principle around 10 letting me know difficult child was in her office (I requested to be notified). apparently they were working on journals and the teacher told difficult child to turn the page and start working on the next one. i assume difficult child did not feel she was done with- the page she was on and didn't want to turn the page. teacher insisted. difficult child ended up throwing a chair (accidently hit a kid) and kicking at the teacher. this was her first incident of violence, usually she's just a screamer. the principle said that she was on off-the-record-in-school suspension (she wasn't allowed to go back to her K class the rest of the day). Where I want your opinion is... my husband wants to take away TV and social visits for the week (my parents spend wed nights with- her) as punishment. if it happens again, take away the right to pick out her clothes (don't ask me how that relates), then if she still does not "see that her actions are wrong" take away all of the toys in her room and make her earn them back with- good behavior. at first he went the most extreme and wanted to take every possesion, priveledge, and item of control away from her. this is what i've talked him down to. what do you think?