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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 6701" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>Welcome! I'm glad that you found us.</p><p></p><p>Usually when children reach this age are are still having such extreme reactions to things there is an underlying cause. It's critical to get to the bottom of it or else you waste tons of time and energy on strategies that don't work. In some cases the child's behaviors will actually be heightened because their needs aren't understood.</p><p></p><p>My child had these kinds of rages and clothing was one of the frequent triggers. I cannot tell you how many times we went to battle over clothes until I realized that there had to be something going on--I didn't know what but I knew I needed to change strategies. Finally I went out and bought 6 outfits in matching sizes and colors that were as close the the clothes he was most likely to accept. This reduced the clothes wars by about 70% but they did continue on until I really understood what was up.</p><p></p><p>In my son's case what was up was that along with his other issues he had Sensory Integration Dysfunction--his brain isn't wired up to handle sensory input like most of ours and simple everyday things can send his into fight or flight mode. Here's more info on that:</p><p><a href="http://www.tsbvi.edu/seehear/fall97/sensory.htm" target="_blank">http://www.tsbvi.edu/seehear/fall97/sensory.htm</a></p><p></p><p>While you are looking for answers, I would suggest backing down on the issues that are causing your daughter problems. Change tactics and look for creative solutions and don't dole out consequences because if they haven't worked by now you're probably wasting your time and possibly making things worse. The Explosive Child will help you in that area...be sure to read the thread at the top of the board about the book.</p><p></p><p>Did her issues (rages, difficult behavior) increase when school started?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 6701, member: 701"] Welcome! I'm glad that you found us. Usually when children reach this age are are still having such extreme reactions to things there is an underlying cause. It's critical to get to the bottom of it or else you waste tons of time and energy on strategies that don't work. In some cases the child's behaviors will actually be heightened because their needs aren't understood. My child had these kinds of rages and clothing was one of the frequent triggers. I cannot tell you how many times we went to battle over clothes until I realized that there had to be something going on--I didn't know what but I knew I needed to change strategies. Finally I went out and bought 6 outfits in matching sizes and colors that were as close the the clothes he was most likely to accept. This reduced the clothes wars by about 70% but they did continue on until I really understood what was up. In my son's case what was up was that along with his other issues he had Sensory Integration Dysfunction--his brain isn't wired up to handle sensory input like most of ours and simple everyday things can send his into fight or flight mode. Here's more info on that: [url]http://www.tsbvi.edu/seehear/fall97/sensory.htm[/url] While you are looking for answers, I would suggest backing down on the issues that are causing your daughter problems. Change tactics and look for creative solutions and don't dole out consequences because if they haven't worked by now you're probably wasting your time and possibly making things worse. The Explosive Child will help you in that area...be sure to read the thread at the top of the board about the book. Did her issues (rages, difficult behavior) increase when school started? [/QUOTE]
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