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<blockquote data-quote="Kjs" data-source="post: 43939"><p>Hello ella. Your story is familiar. Only my difficult child is Occupational Therapist (OT) adhd, definately ODD/ bipolar not otherwise specified. However the same issues. We started about the same age as your son. Most of the kids here are gifted as well. And as you will soon learn, these wonderful bright children are quite the challenge.</p><p>School also thought difficult child was bored. Not doing anything, class clown, getting in trouble. After our first conference the counselor (now a dear friend) asked for permission to test him. We were so proud to think of how gifted he was. not knowing what a challenge we were in for. They transfered him to a more "challenging" first grade. Same issues. Good teacher. Then second grade. Issues became more frequent and more disruptive. Even though the school has early childhood programs, programs for the remedial kids, there was nothing for the advanced kids. so, the decision, along with many counselors, School District and teachers, was made to advance him a grade. keep him challenged. Same issues, good teacher.</p><p>He entered Middle School at age 10. Friends have always been hard to come by because of his outbursts, so he wanted to be popular in this big school. Chose friends that were same grade, 2 years older. Was caught with drugs..AGE 10. By semester we were given the option of special education or expulsion. We transferred him to Spec. Ed. and he finished the year much better than he started. He seemed to mature over that summer, gave up those friends and went to the more preppy, cheerleading group. (by the way..drug tests were weekly. All, including first one came back clean)Honor roll second qtr 7th grade. Now, refusing work, refusing to go to class, student/teacher conflicts, peer troubles. Has a reputation. I have spent 6 years fighting for him. His father is blind to the fact he has any problem at all. I have gotten upto as many as 5 calls from school a day. I quit. I recently just gave up. I cannot take the disrespect he shows me. the yelling, the name calling. Not violent thank god.</p><p>I am babbling, but the point I want to stress, is if the option of advancing a grade is mentioned please think deeply about it. We would never have done it if we would of known how hard it is for him with peers who are so much more emotionally and physically mature. They simply won't put up with him. Breaks my heart, but true. If he settles down, and applies himself, or atleast does the work, he will enter his senior year of High school at age 16. it is very hard on us, and it is extremely hard on him socially.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kjs, post: 43939"] Hello ella. Your story is familiar. Only my difficult child is Occupational Therapist (OT) adhd, definately ODD/ bipolar not otherwise specified. However the same issues. We started about the same age as your son. Most of the kids here are gifted as well. And as you will soon learn, these wonderful bright children are quite the challenge. School also thought difficult child was bored. Not doing anything, class clown, getting in trouble. After our first conference the counselor (now a dear friend) asked for permission to test him. We were so proud to think of how gifted he was. not knowing what a challenge we were in for. They transfered him to a more "challenging" first grade. Same issues. Good teacher. Then second grade. Issues became more frequent and more disruptive. Even though the school has early childhood programs, programs for the remedial kids, there was nothing for the advanced kids. so, the decision, along with many counselors, School District and teachers, was made to advance him a grade. keep him challenged. Same issues, good teacher. He entered Middle School at age 10. Friends have always been hard to come by because of his outbursts, so he wanted to be popular in this big school. Chose friends that were same grade, 2 years older. Was caught with drugs..AGE 10. By semester we were given the option of special education or expulsion. We transferred him to Spec. Ed. and he finished the year much better than he started. He seemed to mature over that summer, gave up those friends and went to the more preppy, cheerleading group. (by the way..drug tests were weekly. All, including first one came back clean)Honor roll second qtr 7th grade. Now, refusing work, refusing to go to class, student/teacher conflicts, peer troubles. Has a reputation. I have spent 6 years fighting for him. His father is blind to the fact he has any problem at all. I have gotten upto as many as 5 calls from school a day. I quit. I recently just gave up. I cannot take the disrespect he shows me. the yelling, the name calling. Not violent thank god. I am babbling, but the point I want to stress, is if the option of advancing a grade is mentioned please think deeply about it. We would never have done it if we would of known how hard it is for him with peers who are so much more emotionally and physically mature. They simply won't put up with him. Breaks my heart, but true. If he settles down, and applies himself, or atleast does the work, he will enter his senior year of High school at age 16. it is very hard on us, and it is extremely hard on him socially. [/QUOTE]
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