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<blockquote data-quote="Ironbutterfly" data-source="post: 676800" data-attributes="member: 19951"><p>Hello and thanks for replying. I have a name of a lawyer in the state he is from and was planning on talking to him about guardianship then son left state. I have looked into guardianship and you have to go to court, get his Dr's statement(I can't do because of HIPPA). Court will do so in an emergency if he is threat to himself or others. If he does go back to state where warrant is for him, matter of time for him to be arrested. It would be a blessing because then I could request from his attorney (Pub Def) to request court for guardianship. However- I am in this situation of being his payee him down South and lying and scamming. For now, my choice is to stop being his payee and let him figure things out- as hard as that will be. We all here have a line the sand that once crossed- is the final end to our enabling. For him, he crossed the final line in the sand for me. The similar thoughts of "how will he live, survive" haunt my thoughts today- but like others here, they have been there done that. He is very street wise and will survive I believe. Others who have been his payee cut the cord and so therefore, I must also. Son has always told me, I don't want to be controlled or be in a group home I would rather be dead. We tried group homes he left within hours. We took him to Salvation army program when he got out of jail- 9month program in my state. He managed to stay one day. We were heart-broken. He was back on the streets again and never went to probation hearing- leading to warrant now. I feel guilty because of his handi-cap and people do take advantage of him. How do you get past that?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ironbutterfly, post: 676800, member: 19951"] Hello and thanks for replying. I have a name of a lawyer in the state he is from and was planning on talking to him about guardianship then son left state. I have looked into guardianship and you have to go to court, get his Dr's statement(I can't do because of HIPPA). Court will do so in an emergency if he is threat to himself or others. If he does go back to state where warrant is for him, matter of time for him to be arrested. It would be a blessing because then I could request from his attorney (Pub Def) to request court for guardianship. However- I am in this situation of being his payee him down South and lying and scamming. For now, my choice is to stop being his payee and let him figure things out- as hard as that will be. We all here have a line the sand that once crossed- is the final end to our enabling. For him, he crossed the final line in the sand for me. The similar thoughts of "how will he live, survive" haunt my thoughts today- but like others here, they have been there done that. He is very street wise and will survive I believe. Others who have been his payee cut the cord and so therefore, I must also. Son has always told me, I don't want to be controlled or be in a group home I would rather be dead. We tried group homes he left within hours. We took him to Salvation army program when he got out of jail- 9month program in my state. He managed to stay one day. We were heart-broken. He was back on the streets again and never went to probation hearing- leading to warrant now. I feel guilty because of his handi-cap and people do take advantage of him. How do you get past that? [/QUOTE]
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