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<blockquote data-quote="TheWalrus" data-source="post: 676834" data-attributes="member: 19905"><p>I don't know much about SSI but I would not be willing to be the payee with someone that (1) was completely unwilling, antagonistic, and manipulative, particularly if (2) I had a personal relationship with that person that made the lies and manipulations hurtful/stressful/dramatic. I would contact SSI and explain the situation and ask that he be assigned a neutral, third party payee. He is obviously in no condition to control his own finances and anyone he chooses is going to either be someone who will do whatever he wishes, take advantage of him, or both.</p><p></p><p>While he may not like it, it would be what was in both of your interests because a third party would not be sucked into his lies/manipulations, nor take them personally and you would be able to disengage from his lies/drama/stress without worrying that he doesn't have his income, is squandering it in ways he shouldn't, or that someone is essentially taking advantage of him and his income.</p><p></p><p>I keeps you from being personally involved, being the "bad guy," and being open to the pain and stress of what he is putting you through. I would want to make sure SSI understands his full situation, why so many people have stopped being his payee and why, and the extent to which he will go to lie regarding the money.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TheWalrus, post: 676834, member: 19905"] I don't know much about SSI but I would not be willing to be the payee with someone that (1) was completely unwilling, antagonistic, and manipulative, particularly if (2) I had a personal relationship with that person that made the lies and manipulations hurtful/stressful/dramatic. I would contact SSI and explain the situation and ask that he be assigned a neutral, third party payee. He is obviously in no condition to control his own finances and anyone he chooses is going to either be someone who will do whatever he wishes, take advantage of him, or both. While he may not like it, it would be what was in both of your interests because a third party would not be sucked into his lies/manipulations, nor take them personally and you would be able to disengage from his lies/drama/stress without worrying that he doesn't have his income, is squandering it in ways he shouldn't, or that someone is essentially taking advantage of him and his income. I keeps you from being personally involved, being the "bad guy," and being open to the pain and stress of what he is putting you through. I would want to make sure SSI understands his full situation, why so many people have stopped being his payee and why, and the extent to which he will go to lie regarding the money. [/QUOTE]
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