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<blockquote data-quote="Ironbutterfly" data-source="post: 676915" data-attributes="member: 19951"><p>Thanks to all for advice and also sharing what you all have been through. My son loves McDonald's and talks easy with folks; to look at him you wouldn't know that he has mental issues until he talks. He talks slow, then rapidly, then stops, backtracks etc. </p><p></p><p>I have been able to call him on his some of his BS and was able to follow-up and catch him in his scams over the past 7 month's. But there are the ones where it is so believable where I thought the money was going for food, hygiene products, couch surfing went for a week or two. I've met lot of his people that he knows in the town he was from, some good, some not so good. I have contacts and was able to verify some information and didn't send money when he called. </p><p></p><p>I feel good about my decision to stop as payee for his benefit- so it forces him to get the help he needs by getting a 3rd party to handle his affairs. I will worry but I have to get my life back and he needs to find a path to get his life under control/ or leave it as is. So many have tried to help him and he does what he wants to do in the end. I give myself permission to let this go- and let the Lord take it from here. I read an article where the person said sometimes the Lord is trying to step in and help your adult child, but then we as parents, take the reins and feel we have the answer. This only brings the issue back around again to be dealt with again and again. </p><p></p><p>Thanks again, what a great support place and wish everyone peace of mind and heart in the journeys with their children.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ironbutterfly, post: 676915, member: 19951"] Thanks to all for advice and also sharing what you all have been through. My son loves McDonald's and talks easy with folks; to look at him you wouldn't know that he has mental issues until he talks. He talks slow, then rapidly, then stops, backtracks etc. I have been able to call him on his some of his BS and was able to follow-up and catch him in his scams over the past 7 month's. But there are the ones where it is so believable where I thought the money was going for food, hygiene products, couch surfing went for a week or two. I've met lot of his people that he knows in the town he was from, some good, some not so good. I have contacts and was able to verify some information and didn't send money when he called. I feel good about my decision to stop as payee for his benefit- so it forces him to get the help he needs by getting a 3rd party to handle his affairs. I will worry but I have to get my life back and he needs to find a path to get his life under control/ or leave it as is. So many have tried to help him and he does what he wants to do in the end. I give myself permission to let this go- and let the Lord take it from here. I read an article where the person said sometimes the Lord is trying to step in and help your adult child, but then we as parents, take the reins and feel we have the answer. This only brings the issue back around again to be dealt with again and again. Thanks again, what a great support place and wish everyone peace of mind and heart in the journeys with their children. [/QUOTE]
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