I didn't see a forum for introductions, so I hope that it's okay to introduce myself here. I'm the mother of a 7 1/2 year old girl, and my husband and I are at our wit's end and don't know what to do with her. Most of the time, she's a pleasant, sweet, compassionate little girl, if highly sensitive (cries easily, is offended/hurt feelings easily, frustrated easily). However, there are times when things do not go her way, and she has "meltdowns" and begins to seriously act out: screaming, yelling, kicking, hitting, scratching. We've been in therapy for more than 2 yrs because all our initial encounters came back with "It's your parenting skill. You're not firm enough with her. You're not consistent enough." Basically the whole, it's a parental thing, but I kept thinking "this isn't normal, something is wrong with my child." She was diagnosed (finally) as having anxiety, and more recently with a tentative diagnosis of ADHD, but more toward the lack of impulse control and hyperactivity. She's intelligent, has always done well in school and doesn't have problems focusing or doing her schoolwork, though she gets very frustrated when she doesn't know the answers right away or doesn't perform as quickly as her peers (in classroom quiz, team type activities). There are also signs of ODD. She was put on Concerta as a experimental trial to see if it curbed the acting out and melt downs. It did, for all of three weeks. Then beginning this week, it started up again. Now, her school has put her on behavioral probation and will expel her if she has one more bad outburst. (Background: Yes, the school is aware that she is being seen/treated by a psychologist and a psychiatrist. Also, the school did not tell me until yesterday that this whole week has been bad, so I feel that I have been ambushed by this sudden "we can't take it anymore." Had I known that there were issues, I would have contacted her psychiatrist and psychologist.) husband and I just don't know what to do anymore. We don't want her to get kicked out of school, but on the other hand, I hardly want her at a school where they've clearly demonstrated that they don't want to work with us or be partners in getting her the proper help and assistance that she needs. I guess I'm asking a lot of questions: what to do about school? How do I even go about enrolling her in a new school, what do I tell them? "Beware that my kids has ups and downs and will attack you?" Could she have been misdiagnosed?