Hi everyone...I am so happy to have found this place, but also totally bummed that I am here to begin with (as I'm sure all of you can relate). My daughter is 8, always been a "challenge". All the usual stuff, every day is a struggle, there is always a fight about EVERYTHING. It's usually when things don't go EXACTLY as she planned in her head, then all hell breaks loose and she explodes. Sound familiar? She's every example in "The Explosive Child". She started in a new school this year because we moved. However, she is in a 2nd/3rd grade COMBINED class, which isn't going well. Being ADHD to begin with, she is automatically distracted, then throw in the teacher who is teaching 1/2 the class something different, while difficult child is expected to work quietly and concentrate on her work...HAHAHAAA! Not to mention, she is BORED STIFF because everything she is learning in this school, she already learned in FIRST GRADE at her former school. The crazy thing is, her grades are awesome. When she does get her work done, it's A's. I just don't think she is being challenged enough. Teacher doesn't agree...thinks she is just being stubborn and doesnt want to follow the rules. Had a conference today with her teacher....came up with some suggestions but I don't think this school is going to work for her long term because it will ALWAYS be a combined grade thing (next year it would be 3rd/4th). So I'm considering open enrollment, at a school that is more STRICT (which she needs...she behaves as well as she can for the "tough" teachers, and acts up more with the "lenient/nice" teachers), and also has more excel programs and Gifted/talented (she's fantastic at art and music). For example, last year she was spelling compound words on her weekly spelling tests, this year (2nd grade), words are as follows: Like, Little, Me, As. Her teacher is reluctant to bump her up to 3rd grade spelling since "she isn't a strong reader". WTF? I am so freakin' frustrated with the teachers....if my daughter complains, she is "making excuses". If I complain, they "don't feel she is ready". ??? Why not just give it a shot and see if she can prove them wrong? What will it hurt? ARgghhh!!! We go next week to see her doctor to discuss medications. I'm finally ready for that (I think?). We've been dealing with this ADHD thing for the past year and a half, (along with counseling) but this year has been the ODD along with it and I just am hoping that there can be brighter days ahead. I never wanted to medicate her but it has gotten to the point where I feel I am actually doing her harm if I DON'T give it a try. Thankfully I am blessed with a head of thick hair, because it disguises how much I've actually pulled out!