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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 710378" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>June</p><p></p><p>I think your husband is very frustrated. My husband used to get that way also. Now that my son is out of our home my husband has actually taken the reins. I'm so thankful for this because I also felt like I was in the middle all the time. It's a horrible way to live. I have actually blocked my son from contacting me at all right now after his relapse a few weeks ago. It seems that when he has me in his life he is complacent. I am not at all sure WHY this is the situation. I did tell him I love him but need a break. I honestly have no desire to interact with him and am very happy to let my husband handle it all. This does worry me because I don't know if it's normal or healthy or if I'm suppressing my feelings or what.</p><p></p><p>My son's doctors always felt the substance abuse was not letting us get to the root of his problems. He was very young and it was all just one big ball of mess. My son still has anxiety but is not on any medications at all. My husband grew up with anxiety himself and he is very much against medications. I am on the fence. If it helps son, he should take it but he doesn't feel it really does so I don't force the issue. It does seem he is overcoming a lot of things now that he is living away from us. I am serious when I say he spent every day on the couch, playing video games and watching TV and this is when sober. He'd then go on a pill binge and raise holy hell. </p><p></p><p>He is now taking a college class and working and sharing an apartment. While I get upset that he is still not living a clean life from my perspective, the fact that one year later he is doing all of this which to most is not a big deal, is truly amazing. I never thought he'd be able to do any of this based on past behaviors. We just hope and pray he continues to get better as time goes on and we make it clear that he cannot live in our home and has to make a life there. </p><p></p><p>It is wonderful to have this forum and to know that we're not some kind of freaks or something and that other people deal with things that are not normal to most parents.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 710378, member: 15032"] June I think your husband is very frustrated. My husband used to get that way also. Now that my son is out of our home my husband has actually taken the reins. I'm so thankful for this because I also felt like I was in the middle all the time. It's a horrible way to live. I have actually blocked my son from contacting me at all right now after his relapse a few weeks ago. It seems that when he has me in his life he is complacent. I am not at all sure WHY this is the situation. I did tell him I love him but need a break. I honestly have no desire to interact with him and am very happy to let my husband handle it all. This does worry me because I don't know if it's normal or healthy or if I'm suppressing my feelings or what. My son's doctors always felt the substance abuse was not letting us get to the root of his problems. He was very young and it was all just one big ball of mess. My son still has anxiety but is not on any medications at all. My husband grew up with anxiety himself and he is very much against medications. I am on the fence. If it helps son, he should take it but he doesn't feel it really does so I don't force the issue. It does seem he is overcoming a lot of things now that he is living away from us. I am serious when I say he spent every day on the couch, playing video games and watching TV and this is when sober. He'd then go on a pill binge and raise holy hell. He is now taking a college class and working and sharing an apartment. While I get upset that he is still not living a clean life from my perspective, the fact that one year later he is doing all of this which to most is not a big deal, is truly amazing. I never thought he'd be able to do any of this based on past behaviors. We just hope and pray he continues to get better as time goes on and we make it clear that he cannot live in our home and has to make a life there. It is wonderful to have this forum and to know that we're not some kind of freaks or something and that other people deal with things that are not normal to most parents. [/QUOTE]
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