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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 53070" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>Hi mywitsend, I'm glad you found us! It's a tough job being a mom of a difficult little one and I hope you'll find good help and encouragement here. There's not anything you vented about in your post that isn't "Been there, done that!" stuff for us.</p><p></p><p>I would recommend that you pick up a copy of Ross Greene's book "The Explosive Child". It will seem targeted for older kids--and it is--but the general philosophies work with younger kids. Check out the thread at the top of this board on how to adapt the methods for younger children. Many of us have had good results using this strategy. As young as he is and until you have a grasp on what's going on, I'd put my efforts into minimize meltdowns and keeping him safe--it's really not worth dad getting him out of bed one day a week at this point. Later you can work on flexibility but 2 is NOT a good age to do that. by the way, dads usually lag behind on recognizing problems in their kids and many are determined to make their kids comply. Bring dad along to the appts and let the doctors so at least you'll have some help there.</p><p></p><p>I would also suggest that you trial finding some system to help make those transitions since we all know those are incredibly disruptive. There's a set of pictures here that might give you an idea of how to go about doing this. In the case of the carseat you'd need pictures of you and your husband taking him out of the carseat so he knows what to expect each time. </p><p></p><p><a href="https://web.archive.org/web/20061229201331/http://www.setbc.org/setbc/communication/frame_pictureset.html" target="_blank">https://web.archive.org/web/20061229201331/http://www.setbc.org/setbc/communication/frame_pictureset.html</a></p><p></p><p>I'm going to give you my opinion of Disruptive Behavioral Disorder in a child this young--a totally unprofessional opinion---but by a mom whose seen descriptions of a zillion kids come through here. I always think of this diagnosis as a professional's way of saying "This child has behavioral issues but I don't have a clue as to what's behind those." I would urge you to consider this a working diagnosis that can help you get insurance coverage for any needed therapies plus help justify any services such as early intervention preschool. Get as thorough of an evaluation on him now but since he's so young, expect that you won't get the whole picture at age 2. I always like to see an occuptional therapy evaluation included in young children because sensory issues aren't always obvious to parents and can really throw a kiddo out of whack. Also, many of the sensory strategies are effective even for kids without sensory processing problems--it just gives parents more in their bag of tricks to work with.</p><p></p><p>As for the allergies--we've had this go both ways for families. We've had families who discovered that allergies were a serious contributer to their child's issues and that behaviors improved significantly when brought under control. There are also families like mine who blamed allergies for behavioral problems for several years so it clouded over the real reasons because we never considered anything beyond allergies/sinus was going on. In my child's case he turned out not to have allergies at all but chronic sinus problems that required 2 sinus surgeries and experimenting to find a treatment plan for colds that works. A simple RAST test would have helped us eliminate the allergy theory earlier but it looked so much like allergies neither the doctor or I questioned it. </p><p></p><p>There's a ton online about gluten (it's being blamed for everything these days) but some children do improve on a gluten free diet. Google and you'll find loads out there. The whole allergy bit is really an area you have to do your own trials and see what makes a difference.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 53070, member: 701"] Hi mywitsend, I'm glad you found us! It's a tough job being a mom of a difficult little one and I hope you'll find good help and encouragement here. There's not anything you vented about in your post that isn't "Been there, done that!" stuff for us. I would recommend that you pick up a copy of Ross Greene's book "The Explosive Child". It will seem targeted for older kids--and it is--but the general philosophies work with younger kids. Check out the thread at the top of this board on how to adapt the methods for younger children. Many of us have had good results using this strategy. As young as he is and until you have a grasp on what's going on, I'd put my efforts into minimize meltdowns and keeping him safe--it's really not worth dad getting him out of bed one day a week at this point. Later you can work on flexibility but 2 is NOT a good age to do that. by the way, dads usually lag behind on recognizing problems in their kids and many are determined to make their kids comply. Bring dad along to the appts and let the doctors so at least you'll have some help there. I would also suggest that you trial finding some system to help make those transitions since we all know those are incredibly disruptive. There's a set of pictures here that might give you an idea of how to go about doing this. In the case of the carseat you'd need pictures of you and your husband taking him out of the carseat so he knows what to expect each time. [URL]https://web.archive.org/web/20061229201331/http://www.setbc.org/setbc/communication/frame_pictureset.html[/URL] I'm going to give you my opinion of Disruptive Behavioral Disorder in a child this young--a totally unprofessional opinion---but by a mom whose seen descriptions of a zillion kids come through here. I always think of this diagnosis as a professional's way of saying "This child has behavioral issues but I don't have a clue as to what's behind those." I would urge you to consider this a working diagnosis that can help you get insurance coverage for any needed therapies plus help justify any services such as early intervention preschool. Get as thorough of an evaluation on him now but since he's so young, expect that you won't get the whole picture at age 2. I always like to see an occuptional therapy evaluation included in young children because sensory issues aren't always obvious to parents and can really throw a kiddo out of whack. Also, many of the sensory strategies are effective even for kids without sensory processing problems--it just gives parents more in their bag of tricks to work with. As for the allergies--we've had this go both ways for families. We've had families who discovered that allergies were a serious contributer to their child's issues and that behaviors improved significantly when brought under control. There are also families like mine who blamed allergies for behavioral problems for several years so it clouded over the real reasons because we never considered anything beyond allergies/sinus was going on. In my child's case he turned out not to have allergies at all but chronic sinus problems that required 2 sinus surgeries and experimenting to find a treatment plan for colds that works. A simple RAST test would have helped us eliminate the allergy theory earlier but it looked so much like allergies neither the doctor or I questioned it. There's a ton online about gluten (it's being blamed for everything these days) but some children do improve on a gluten free diet. Google and you'll find loads out there. The whole allergy bit is really an area you have to do your own trials and see what makes a difference. [/QUOTE]
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