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<blockquote data-quote="bluebell" data-source="post: 622477" data-attributes="member: 16761"><p>Thanks for your reply! No it is not legal for him to be on his own, but I certainly wouldn't call what he's doing as being out on his own. We have tried everything to get him somewhere long term, we are getting nowhere. We could file a FINS petition but he would be 18 before it worked its way thru the system and the psychiatric hospital would not recommend him for a longer stay. We are experiencing some financial strains due to unemployment and unexpected expenses so we can't really do private pay right now. He was on his best behavior there and they deemed his issues 'situational'. Although they did diagnose him with bipolar, but I don't know - I'm like you I think he's on something besides pot - he only tested positive for pot at the psychiatric hospital - very confusing. His eyes get wildly dilated when he's on a rage - and I think he needs a neuro workup, but how to take him? He's been a lazy pothead since he was 13 but never violent. This is all brand new. My daughter has suffered quite a bit this past year and has had her own health and mental challenges - but they are normal - so far. But she is watching and judging every move we make, so that has to be taken into consideration as well. He might be beyond our influence, but she still is not. </p><p>We have cut off all support except for the phone, I have to admit I'm afraid of the raging he will do when that gets turned off. That's what started the first rage in August. The cops last week kept asking him what he's going to do when he's 18, that we will most likely be getting him a restraining order for his birthday and he needs to start thinking about that NOW. He was so disrepectful to me in front of the cop and I am so dumb, I didn't even see it - I'm actually conversing with this cussing, angry lunatic and he's saying 'yes sir' and 'no sir' to the cop. The cop pointed that out and I had to take a step back. He told the cop 'I wasn't raised to respect my parents.' WTF??? I know you all don't know me from Adam - but this kid has always had rules and was an honor student all thru elementary school - we definitely had our issues - don't get me wrong - but he was raised to respect us and did treat us with respect. My husband has always been strict and I have always been consistent. Our house was the 'hangout' and we were a kiddie taxi service for many years - we have a pool and don't mind a dirty home or an empty gas tank - maybe that's the problem? We did too much? We wanted them to love their home - to love their family. I don't know I need to stop blaming myself. </p><p>My husband did just complete six months of anger management for his da charge, and I think it did him some good. He only wished difficult child had had to go. difficult child's case was dismissed in juvenile court, it was a joke - he got off scott-free for attacking my husband for trying to get his cell phone out of his hand.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="bluebell, post: 622477, member: 16761"] Thanks for your reply! No it is not legal for him to be on his own, but I certainly wouldn't call what he's doing as being out on his own. We have tried everything to get him somewhere long term, we are getting nowhere. We could file a FINS petition but he would be 18 before it worked its way thru the system and the psychiatric hospital would not recommend him for a longer stay. We are experiencing some financial strains due to unemployment and unexpected expenses so we can't really do private pay right now. He was on his best behavior there and they deemed his issues 'situational'. Although they did diagnose him with bipolar, but I don't know - I'm like you I think he's on something besides pot - he only tested positive for pot at the psychiatric hospital - very confusing. His eyes get wildly dilated when he's on a rage - and I think he needs a neuro workup, but how to take him? He's been a lazy pothead since he was 13 but never violent. This is all brand new. My daughter has suffered quite a bit this past year and has had her own health and mental challenges - but they are normal - so far. But she is watching and judging every move we make, so that has to be taken into consideration as well. He might be beyond our influence, but she still is not. We have cut off all support except for the phone, I have to admit I'm afraid of the raging he will do when that gets turned off. That's what started the first rage in August. The cops last week kept asking him what he's going to do when he's 18, that we will most likely be getting him a restraining order for his birthday and he needs to start thinking about that NOW. He was so disrepectful to me in front of the cop and I am so dumb, I didn't even see it - I'm actually conversing with this cussing, angry lunatic and he's saying 'yes sir' and 'no sir' to the cop. The cop pointed that out and I had to take a step back. He told the cop 'I wasn't raised to respect my parents.' WTF??? I know you all don't know me from Adam - but this kid has always had rules and was an honor student all thru elementary school - we definitely had our issues - don't get me wrong - but he was raised to respect us and did treat us with respect. My husband has always been strict and I have always been consistent. Our house was the 'hangout' and we were a kiddie taxi service for many years - we have a pool and don't mind a dirty home or an empty gas tank - maybe that's the problem? We did too much? We wanted them to love their home - to love their family. I don't know I need to stop blaming myself. My husband did just complete six months of anger management for his da charge, and I think it did him some good. He only wished difficult child had had to go. difficult child's case was dismissed in juvenile court, it was a joke - he got off scott-free for attacking my husband for trying to get his cell phone out of his hand. [/QUOTE]
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