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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 654405" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Welcome step-44. We adopted our daughter at birth. Her background included alcohol and drug abuse on the part of her birthmother and the birthfather's history is unknown. We have come to learn over the years that nature trumps nurture. We were naive in thinking that any obstacle she faced could be overcome by our great (LOL) parenting....NOT. There are some things inherited that just follow them no matter what. I am not saying all was lost because I really believe we have had a stabilizing influence on her and that we have made a difference.</p><p></p><p>I tell you that because it sounds like you are dealing with a lot of the same things we did when our daughter was that age, a lot of disrespect, defiance, acting out, inappropriate sexual behavior with her boyfriend in our home, drinking and pot use. The next few years were very difficult years and included kicking her out of the house, living with druggie friends, substance abuse treatment programs and finally out on her own to sink or swim.</p><p></p><p>I can't tell you what to do because any action you take will be difficult and there is no quick fix for his behavior. Perhaps it is better that he stay with his mother for a while. I have no hope that this will help him, it will just give you and your daughter a break for awhile. Any action that you take has to be supported by his mother and that just doesn't sound likely.</p><p></p><p>You are not alone, many of us have dealt with the same issues. We learn from each other and I hope you find our little corner of the world helpful.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 654405, member: 59"] Welcome step-44. We adopted our daughter at birth. Her background included alcohol and drug abuse on the part of her birthmother and the birthfather's history is unknown. We have come to learn over the years that nature trumps nurture. We were naive in thinking that any obstacle she faced could be overcome by our great (LOL) parenting....NOT. There are some things inherited that just follow them no matter what. I am not saying all was lost because I really believe we have had a stabilizing influence on her and that we have made a difference. I tell you that because it sounds like you are dealing with a lot of the same things we did when our daughter was that age, a lot of disrespect, defiance, acting out, inappropriate sexual behavior with her boyfriend in our home, drinking and pot use. The next few years were very difficult years and included kicking her out of the house, living with druggie friends, substance abuse treatment programs and finally out on her own to sink or swim. I can't tell you what to do because any action you take will be difficult and there is no quick fix for his behavior. Perhaps it is better that he stay with his mother for a while. I have no hope that this will help him, it will just give you and your daughter a break for awhile. Any action that you take has to be supported by his mother and that just doesn't sound likely. You are not alone, many of us have dealt with the same issues. We learn from each other and I hope you find our little corner of the world helpful. [/QUOTE]
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