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<blockquote data-quote="BloodiedButUnbowed" data-source="post: 710428" data-attributes="member: 13303"><p>Not sure if I agree with the above advice, which is somewhat harsh, perhaps especially to a newcomer. At the same time, I do suggest that OP consider getting some distance from the situation. I also highly recommend contacting your state's social services/human services division and start a trail of documentation so that your son can get the help he needs (that's the way to look at it). He is not a typical kid and he is out of control. He is destroying your family and you need help. It isn't your fault that he was born with a brain that isn't able to cope with daily life. </p><p></p><p>The 'help he needs' could range from outside therapy for him and the rest of your family; an IEP if he doesn't already have one; an alternative school; or even as someone else suggested, residential placement where he would no longer live in your home. Whatever it turns out to be, you can't get there without taking the first step. Even though it may seem that he 'gets what he wants' and is getting the best of the situation, he's hurting too, and it's important for ALL of you to get help and stop things from getting worse.</p><p></p><p>It's possible to relinquish your legal guardianship over such a difficult child. A horrible decision to have to make; sometimes, though, it might be necessary, especially if other kids are in the picture who are being harmed and damaged by the uncontrollable child. </p><p></p><p>So sorry you are here. Keep posting - it helps!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BloodiedButUnbowed, post: 710428, member: 13303"] Not sure if I agree with the above advice, which is somewhat harsh, perhaps especially to a newcomer. At the same time, I do suggest that OP consider getting some distance from the situation. I also highly recommend contacting your state's social services/human services division and start a trail of documentation so that your son can get the help he needs (that's the way to look at it). He is not a typical kid and he is out of control. He is destroying your family and you need help. It isn't your fault that he was born with a brain that isn't able to cope with daily life. The 'help he needs' could range from outside therapy for him and the rest of your family; an IEP if he doesn't already have one; an alternative school; or even as someone else suggested, residential placement where he would no longer live in your home. Whatever it turns out to be, you can't get there without taking the first step. Even though it may seem that he 'gets what he wants' and is getting the best of the situation, he's hurting too, and it's important for ALL of you to get help and stop things from getting worse. It's possible to relinquish your legal guardianship over such a difficult child. A horrible decision to have to make; sometimes, though, it might be necessary, especially if other kids are in the picture who are being harmed and damaged by the uncontrollable child. So sorry you are here. Keep posting - it helps! [/QUOTE]
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