Detaching with love for our AC and our selves is what we need to do to survive and not help them kill themselves.Hi all and thanks so much, I'm sorry things are tough and also glad it's not just me ! It's such a taboo cutting out a child from your life. I'm in the UK by the way.
Started when my only son, now 21 was 14. Truancy, smoking weed etc. I got help from social services and school at this point. Basically, he became violent and aggressive to me and we got to a point where we couldn't live together. Over the years from 17-21 ten different supportive homes, offering mental health support etc that he wouldn't engage with. He couldn't follow rules and evicted from all. Doctors appointments etc made to help- never attended.
Recently evicted again, he's suicidal and missing currently. I'm at a point that I have to cut off ties unless he's got a job, off drugs etc. I have done all the sensible things, police and social services aware of what's going on.
I've developed good coping mechanisms over the years but it's still oh so hard.
Thanks again all and sending love x