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<blockquote data-quote="Running_for_the_shelter" data-source="post: 78877" data-attributes="member: 2960"><p>Hey, lady! I haven't been on as much lately for a variety of reasons, so you don't really "know" me, but here's some input, anyway.</p><p></p><p>I believed that many of my own issues in life were less about brain chemistry and more about being the daughter of an alcoholic father with a volatile temper and a very depressed mother ... basically, environment. So, I determined that I would give my cubs a better environment. No physical violence, no verbal abuse, no guilt-trips, etc. Standard parental thought process, huh?</p><p></p><p>Everything was fine with easy child, the older child. Then, my son. My son was the perfect baby but turned into a Terrible Two and stayed that way. After a while, it became obvious that this wasn't a standard Terrible-Two-he'll-grow-out-of-it thing. And it became apparent he was developing just like me. The all-consuming anger, the inappropriate responses, all of it. </p><p></p><p>I spent a year and a half of his toddlerhood trying different specialists, diets, supplements, behavioral techniques etc. Depsite our best efforts, the problems didn't just continue, they grew. </p><p></p><p>I hadn't wanted to drug a three-year-old and I didn't want to drug a four-and-a-half year old, either. But, the options seemed few and my son was taking a lot of psychological damage in being excluded from play by other children and by being asked to leave programs. One day, I watched one of the specialists call my son's name in a perfectly neutral tone and watched my son response with the same defensive anger, look, and posture that I used to. I decided that brain chemistry trumped environment and all of my best of intentions weren't going to stop my son's progress into becoming far more like me than I wanted. The specialist I liked best gently explained to me that the internal damage being caused by my son's continual stress and anger was more than drug trials were going to do.</p><p></p><p>So we played the roulette game of medications. After three failures, we tried Lamictal and it has made a world of difference to our little boy. Not magic by a long shot, but he doesn't rage like he used to. To be honest, I wish I'd tried the drugs with him long before I did. Had I not been bent on NOT drugging him, I could well have save him at least of year of social rejection and the pain he felt because of the anger consuming him. </p><p></p><p>I don't know if this story helped you much, but I do understand the reluctance to drug a child. It was hard for me to keep trying different drugs with various side-effects when I hadn't even wanted to give him the first one but I am glad I did. He is a much happier boy than when the anger hijacked his brain all the time.</p><p></p><p>Good luck to you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Running_for_the_shelter, post: 78877, member: 2960"] Hey, lady! I haven't been on as much lately for a variety of reasons, so you don't really "know" me, but here's some input, anyway. I believed that many of my own issues in life were less about brain chemistry and more about being the daughter of an alcoholic father with a volatile temper and a very depressed mother ... basically, environment. So, I determined that I would give my cubs a better environment. No physical violence, no verbal abuse, no guilt-trips, etc. Standard parental thought process, huh? Everything was fine with easy child, the older child. Then, my son. My son was the perfect baby but turned into a Terrible Two and stayed that way. After a while, it became obvious that this wasn't a standard Terrible-Two-he'll-grow-out-of-it thing. And it became apparent he was developing just like me. The all-consuming anger, the inappropriate responses, all of it. I spent a year and a half of his toddlerhood trying different specialists, diets, supplements, behavioral techniques etc. Depsite our best efforts, the problems didn't just continue, they grew. I hadn't wanted to drug a three-year-old and I didn't want to drug a four-and-a-half year old, either. But, the options seemed few and my son was taking a lot of psychological damage in being excluded from play by other children and by being asked to leave programs. One day, I watched one of the specialists call my son's name in a perfectly neutral tone and watched my son response with the same defensive anger, look, and posture that I used to. I decided that brain chemistry trumped environment and all of my best of intentions weren't going to stop my son's progress into becoming far more like me than I wanted. The specialist I liked best gently explained to me that the internal damage being caused by my son's continual stress and anger was more than drug trials were going to do. So we played the roulette game of medications. After three failures, we tried Lamictal and it has made a world of difference to our little boy. Not magic by a long shot, but he doesn't rage like he used to. To be honest, I wish I'd tried the drugs with him long before I did. Had I not been bent on NOT drugging him, I could well have save him at least of year of social rejection and the pain he felt because of the anger consuming him. I don't know if this story helped you much, but I do understand the reluctance to drug a child. It was hard for me to keep trying different drugs with various side-effects when I hadn't even wanted to give him the first one but I am glad I did. He is a much happier boy than when the anger hijacked his brain all the time. Good luck to you! [/QUOTE]
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