Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
New member looking for support and advice about difficult realtionship with her daughter
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 676876" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Welcome July,</p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry for what you are going through. As parents we are wired to do whatever we can so our children don't suffer or feel pain, but this can also be very dangerous for us. You see there comes a point when helping is no longer helping but rather enabling which in turn hurts our children as well as us.</p><p></p><p>I understand that you don't want to jeopardize your relationship with your daughter but what you are not seeing is the relationship you have is very dysfunctional. You have been allowing your adult daughter to manipulate you. Please don't take this wrong, I get it, we all get it. We just want our children to be happy and we do whatever we can to make that happen, but as I said before, you have gotten to the point where helping has turned into enabling.</p><p></p><p>It is clear that your daughter has zero respect for you or your home. I do not know all the dynamics of what led you to allow her to live there with her boyfriend while you live somewhere else. Does your daughter pay rent? How old is your daughter and the boyfriend? Are either one of them working?</p><p></p><p>If your daughter is a legal adult then you can most definitely get the law involved, however, you will need to check with the law to find out how to get her out of your house. You may have to file a legal eviction notice.</p><p></p><p>Bottom line, it's your home and you need to take it back. If it were me, I would move back in and take control. I would get anything of value out of the home and keep it at your boyfriends or somewhere that your daughter and her boyfriend cannot get at it.</p><p></p><p>I know that none of this is easy but it is something that you can get through. You have come upon this site which is filled with parents that have done battle with our difficult adult children. None of us want to be here but I for one am so grateful for this site and the wisdom and support that the members offer.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there and let us know how things are going.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 676876, member: 18516"] Welcome July, I'm so sorry for what you are going through. As parents we are wired to do whatever we can so our children don't suffer or feel pain, but this can also be very dangerous for us. You see there comes a point when helping is no longer helping but rather enabling which in turn hurts our children as well as us. I understand that you don't want to jeopardize your relationship with your daughter but what you are not seeing is the relationship you have is very dysfunctional. You have been allowing your adult daughter to manipulate you. Please don't take this wrong, I get it, we all get it. We just want our children to be happy and we do whatever we can to make that happen, but as I said before, you have gotten to the point where helping has turned into enabling. It is clear that your daughter has zero respect for you or your home. I do not know all the dynamics of what led you to allow her to live there with her boyfriend while you live somewhere else. Does your daughter pay rent? How old is your daughter and the boyfriend? Are either one of them working? If your daughter is a legal adult then you can most definitely get the law involved, however, you will need to check with the law to find out how to get her out of your house. You may have to file a legal eviction notice. Bottom line, it's your home and you need to take it back. If it were me, I would move back in and take control. I would get anything of value out of the home and keep it at your boyfriends or somewhere that your daughter and her boyfriend cannot get at it. I know that none of this is easy but it is something that you can get through. You have come upon this site which is filled with parents that have done battle with our difficult adult children. None of us want to be here but I for one am so grateful for this site and the wisdom and support that the members offer. Hang in there and let us know how things are going. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
New member looking for support and advice about difficult realtionship with her daughter
Top