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<blockquote data-quote="Sumsky" data-source="post: 742333" data-attributes="member: 22893"><p>I feel like I am seeing things a lot clearer the longer this goes. For a while I had the ‘rose colored glasses’ on. Believing that there was a way to make this work. I’m starting to question why I would even want to be with a man that would allow and protect anyone other than the victim. I’m seeing my husband in a completely different light and I’m not liking what I see at all!!! I said to him a long time ago that by doing nothing you are saying and doing a lot. By being passive and ‘protecting’ you are still hurting those around you. And there was never a time more obvious than now! I don’t think I can ever look at him the same way again. His indecision has been his decision all along. It is a statement to his priorities. And unfortunately, his family is not a priority!! It’s not a matter of me and my kids vs him and his son. He is hurting himself and his son as much as he is hurting me and my kids. I feel this is as much my husbands fault as SS. He has never been a parent but rather a friend. He has never been a partner. He does not adult well!! It’s too much for me now. And as much as I would love to stick with the for better, for worse, I can’t do it while sacrificing my children, especially my daughter!! So, I have decided and made arrangements to leave when I get back from vacation. My kids will be with my parents next week and I will join them when I get home.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sumsky, post: 742333, member: 22893"] I feel like I am seeing things a lot clearer the longer this goes. For a while I had the ‘rose colored glasses’ on. Believing that there was a way to make this work. I’m starting to question why I would even want to be with a man that would allow and protect anyone other than the victim. I’m seeing my husband in a completely different light and I’m not liking what I see at all!!! I said to him a long time ago that by doing nothing you are saying and doing a lot. By being passive and ‘protecting’ you are still hurting those around you. And there was never a time more obvious than now! I don’t think I can ever look at him the same way again. His indecision has been his decision all along. It is a statement to his priorities. And unfortunately, his family is not a priority!! It’s not a matter of me and my kids vs him and his son. He is hurting himself and his son as much as he is hurting me and my kids. I feel this is as much my husbands fault as SS. He has never been a parent but rather a friend. He has never been a partner. He does not adult well!! It’s too much for me now. And as much as I would love to stick with the for better, for worse, I can’t do it while sacrificing my children, especially my daughter!! So, I have decided and made arrangements to leave when I get back from vacation. My kids will be with my parents next week and I will join them when I get home. [/QUOTE]
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