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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 635624" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>OpenWindow, I do know there are options, although, because of laws, you have to tread carefully.</p><p></p><p>My autistic son has supports and lives mostly independent and is doing well, but, of course, he does not have a mental illness, which makes a big difference.</p><p></p><p>If schizophrenia is in the family, he probably has it, considering the hallucinations. It is very hereditary, unfortunately, and even the medications don't necessarily make a schizophrenic sane. It is a sad disease, but I hear that you already know this. Very often schizophrenics think their medications are poison or the voices tell them they are poison and they have so much going on inside themselves that they don't even remember appointments. It's very sad. I have been very interested in this for a few months and have gobbled up anything I could find on this terrible theft of one's mind.</p><p></p><p>Whether or not he is more capable right now than others in his family were, without help he will get worse. If it were my child, I would get him Disability and Case Management. That doesn't mean he can't live alone right now, but it means he does get somebody keeping an eye on him in case he gets worse. If my autistic son needed medication, somebody would come in to give it to him. If he needed hospitalization, that would be made known. There is nothing beyond exploring these ideas that you could do. Just remember, he has inherited a nasty set of genes. Please don't get offended. My oldest child and only biological son did too! And he seemed to have picked up the worst of everyone...that is why I adopted all my other children and, trust me, not one of them is mentally ill the way my biological son is. It is nothing your wife did wrong...or you. It just happens in some with t he bad card genes.</p><p></p><p>This is a really difficult problem since we don't deal at all with mental illness in the US. We keep them in the hospital for 72 hours if they become a threat to themselves or others and there is no go-to place that they are taken. They are discharged like any other patient, without any supervision. If he can get help and is reminded to take his medication and given it each day, that can stop the disease from progressing. That is sooooooooooo important. But, you and I both know that our laws don't allow us to force them to take medicine...so we are fresh out of luck here in the U.S.</p><p></p><p>I hope you find a satisfactory solution for this adult child that is good for both of you. Living at home is obviously not an option. It is way too stressful and the things that he says, even if psychosis induced, would wear on any normal human being's stress level.You need to be healthy and free of stress as does your wife. You need your home to be your sanctuary. You deserve a good life. You sound like a kind man. Your wife deserves peace as well.</p><p></p><p>You have my most heartfelt good wishes as you are in a situation that is so very difficult and none of us can possibly know what to tell you to do. The situation is unique, even to us.</p><p></p><p>I will keep your family in my thoughts. Let us know what you decide to do. Nobody will berate you here. It is safe.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 635624, member: 1550"] OpenWindow, I do know there are options, although, because of laws, you have to tread carefully. My autistic son has supports and lives mostly independent and is doing well, but, of course, he does not have a mental illness, which makes a big difference. If schizophrenia is in the family, he probably has it, considering the hallucinations. It is very hereditary, unfortunately, and even the medications don't necessarily make a schizophrenic sane. It is a sad disease, but I hear that you already know this. Very often schizophrenics think their medications are poison or the voices tell them they are poison and they have so much going on inside themselves that they don't even remember appointments. It's very sad. I have been very interested in this for a few months and have gobbled up anything I could find on this terrible theft of one's mind. Whether or not he is more capable right now than others in his family were, without help he will get worse. If it were my child, I would get him Disability and Case Management. That doesn't mean he can't live alone right now, but it means he does get somebody keeping an eye on him in case he gets worse. If my autistic son needed medication, somebody would come in to give it to him. If he needed hospitalization, that would be made known. There is nothing beyond exploring these ideas that you could do. Just remember, he has inherited a nasty set of genes. Please don't get offended. My oldest child and only biological son did too! And he seemed to have picked up the worst of everyone...that is why I adopted all my other children and, trust me, not one of them is mentally ill the way my biological son is. It is nothing your wife did wrong...or you. It just happens in some with t he bad card genes. This is a really difficult problem since we don't deal at all with mental illness in the US. We keep them in the hospital for 72 hours if they become a threat to themselves or others and there is no go-to place that they are taken. They are discharged like any other patient, without any supervision. If he can get help and is reminded to take his medication and given it each day, that can stop the disease from progressing. That is sooooooooooo important. But, you and I both know that our laws don't allow us to force them to take medicine...so we are fresh out of luck here in the U.S. I hope you find a satisfactory solution for this adult child that is good for both of you. Living at home is obviously not an option. It is way too stressful and the things that he says, even if psychosis induced, would wear on any normal human being's stress level.You need to be healthy and free of stress as does your wife. You need your home to be your sanctuary. You deserve a good life. You sound like a kind man. Your wife deserves peace as well. You have my most heartfelt good wishes as you are in a situation that is so very difficult and none of us can possibly know what to tell you to do. The situation is unique, even to us. I will keep your family in my thoughts. Let us know what you decide to do. Nobody will berate you here. It is safe. [/QUOTE]
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