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<blockquote data-quote="Josie" data-source="post: 18052" data-attributes="member: 1792"><p>Welcome to the board.</p><p></p><p>You have gotten some good advice so far.</p><p></p><p>I wanted to add some encouragement that it is not your fault and it can get a lot better if you figure out what might be causing the ODD behaviour.</p><p></p><p>My daughter was diagnosed with ODD. She has been going to the same therapist for 3 years now. Just last summer, I said something to the therapist about what it was like when difficult child was 3 and she was surprised to hear it was that bad. So it takes a long time for them to get the full picture, if they ever do. </p><p></p><p>My daughter had some of the same issues as your son. She also took the same lunch for years. Then she would complain that she was tired of it but she couldn't come up with anything else she wanted to eat. So she kept taking it. </p><p></p><p>I am more flexible with what she eats now because it just isn't worth a battle over. If she doesn't like what I make, she can make something herself. It is working for us.</p><p></p><p>We discovered my daughter's oppositional behaviour was caused by food allergies. Now that she doesn't eat those foods, she is a easy child (perfect child LOL) Since you mentioned they thought your son had allergies until they tested him, this might be something for you to look into. Unfortunately, this is considered alternative medicine so you probably will have a hard time finding a doctor to help you. My easy child was also treated for allergies until they tested her and she had none. It turns out she has food allergies, too. She doesn't have the bags under her eyes and the crease in her nose anymore since she doesn't eat those foods. You can just try to eliminate the major food allergens to see if that makes a difference, if you decide to try it. This may not be the case for your son but I wanted to mention it.</p><p></p><p>I was told last March that it was a parenting issue by a different p-doctor than the one we usually see. At that time, we thought we were going to have to add a mood stabilizer to difficult child's medications. In May, we eliminated her allergens and we have a different child. Same parenting techniques but a different result. It clearly is not a parenting issue. I believe that kids don't act that way if they can help it.</p><p></p><p>Good luck. It is never easy figuring out what the real problem is.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Josie, post: 18052, member: 1792"] Welcome to the board. You have gotten some good advice so far. I wanted to add some encouragement that it is not your fault and it can get a lot better if you figure out what might be causing the ODD behaviour. My daughter was diagnosed with ODD. She has been going to the same therapist for 3 years now. Just last summer, I said something to the therapist about what it was like when difficult child was 3 and she was surprised to hear it was that bad. So it takes a long time for them to get the full picture, if they ever do. My daughter had some of the same issues as your son. She also took the same lunch for years. Then she would complain that she was tired of it but she couldn't come up with anything else she wanted to eat. So she kept taking it. I am more flexible with what she eats now because it just isn't worth a battle over. If she doesn't like what I make, she can make something herself. It is working for us. We discovered my daughter's oppositional behaviour was caused by food allergies. Now that she doesn't eat those foods, she is a easy child (perfect child LOL) Since you mentioned they thought your son had allergies until they tested him, this might be something for you to look into. Unfortunately, this is considered alternative medicine so you probably will have a hard time finding a doctor to help you. My easy child was also treated for allergies until they tested her and she had none. It turns out she has food allergies, too. She doesn't have the bags under her eyes and the crease in her nose anymore since she doesn't eat those foods. You can just try to eliminate the major food allergens to see if that makes a difference, if you decide to try it. This may not be the case for your son but I wanted to mention it. I was told last March that it was a parenting issue by a different p-doctor than the one we usually see. At that time, we thought we were going to have to add a mood stabilizer to difficult child's medications. In May, we eliminated her allergens and we have a different child. Same parenting techniques but a different result. It clearly is not a parenting issue. I believe that kids don't act that way if they can help it. Good luck. It is never easy figuring out what the real problem is. [/QUOTE]
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