My 7-y-o son is home from school again today for slapping another child in the face. The same child he poked with a pencil on Monday. There is nothing worse than hearing your child talk about how much he hates himself for the way he acts... So tell him again that I love him, and the problem won't get fixed unless he loves himself and wants to fix it. And again, I promise him that together we will find a solution. But I don't know where to go next. He has an IEP at school for speech disorder (borderline qualifies for this) and for Occupational Therapist (OT) for his sensory processing disorder (SPD). I am going to request gifted testing for him this year if he gets himself under control enough to be able to do it. He saw a pediatric neuropsychologist off and on for a period of 2 years, and even though he just loved her and begs to go back, I don't think she grasped the full scope of the problem. My son is *so* precocious, charming, and charismatic with adults that they have difficulty comprehending the level of difficulty he has interacting with other children. Our pediatrician reacts essentially the same way as the psychologist -- I get the feeling they think that the school administrators and I are just over-reacting to normal rambunctious boy behavior. Meanwhile, I am worried because I see a hardening of the attitudes of the staff at the school. We are in an all-choice magnet school with a behavioral contract. The principal has been patient and willing to work with my son, but I'm not sure how much longer this will last. I think the next step is possibly a pediatric neurologist, but I thought I'd come here to get the advice of those who have gone before. I have made a promise to my son that I will help him... I just don't know how. Oh, and FYI, per the psychologist's evaluation, he does not have ADHD or ADD, but she and another psychologist (with our district's early intervention program) both told me that he was at high risk for a misdiagnosis of ADHD. We tried Focalin for a period of about 2 weeks last spring until his teacher reported intense screaming episodes and "significant cognitive decay" with the medication. Because my son has a growth disorder, I do not see stimulant medications as a potential long-term solution for him. What about allergies? I'm reading "Is This Your Child?" by Doris Rapp... allergist or neurologist or both??? Thanks!