So I'm 65 years old; I've been retired from teaching for 10 years. I've been a caregiver for my mother for several years, Older difficult child lives 2 hours away; younger one lives around the corner from me. The plan has always been that when my mother passed away, I would sell my house and move to Omaha, She died last month. Younger difficult child spent ALL of her money plus put me into debt too. I have enough money to pay the minimum on my bills; my house is paid for; I could stay here and live out my life in a beautiful environment (I redid the house exactly as I wanted) but I would be stuck here a million miles from anywhere with nothing to do and nobody to do it with. I made a deal with difficult child here to buy my house - he will pay me money from his income tax for the next 5 years and that will give me as much as I could get if I sold it on the regular market plus it will ensure that he and wife and 4 kids have a halfway decent roof over their heads because right now they are living in a shack. The problem is that they have put me in so much debt that I can't do anything till I get it paid off. difficult child 1 has offered to let me come and live with him and his girlfriend and two kids and get a job there (it is a larger place with jobs available) I have a master's degree and lots of experience but nobody wants to hire somebody my age. I will look for some better jobs but if worse comes to worst, he used to be a manager at Taco Bell and he says he can make one phone call and guarantee me a full time job there. I am planning to take him up on his offer, difficult child 2 is having a new baby; they are here several times a day thinking I should give them $5 here and $10 there; they rely on me to babysit even if it isn't convenient for me; etc. and I need to get away from them plus I need to earn money to make my move I'm not thrilled about giving up my home to go sleep on difficult child 1's couch and I'm not thrilled to go back to work at some job I probably won't like and I'm especially not thrilled to leave my 2 beloved dogs with difficult child 2 but I can't think of any other solution. I can either stay where I am and be unhappy or I can go there and probably be happier and definitely have something to look forward to. I am letting difficult child 2 and family move into my house now, as it is either that or spend a bunch of money nobody has to make the one they're in now fit for the winter. So then if I change my mind I guess I won't have a place to come back to, Of course difficult child 2 would take me in but I can't imagine living with a crazy difficult child and his bipolar wife and 3 kids under 8 plus a new baby. Keep your fingers crossed for me that it will all work out in the end.