JJJ
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We got Kanga's updated Residential Treatment Center (RTC) goals. They've added one for us -- "Family will decrease their fear of Kanga through increased contact and increased education about her mental illness."
All through the report they talk about how our relationship with Kanga has improved due to more frequent contact. Um, there is more frequent contact because they all but threatened us (with loss of funding) if we didn't start visiting her more. Our relationship with her hasn't improved. Both boys have regressed so much since they insisted that sibling visits start (only one visit so far and both boys acted out at school for two solid weeks; Eeyore told his principal that he can't hold it together at school because he so scared that Kanga is going to hit him and that is all he can think about). Even Piglet refuses to speak to her on the phone most of the time.
It is because I am educated about her mental illness that I understand how dangerous she is and the limited hope we have for a non-violent home if/when we have to take her back. They think the fact that she hasn't been violent at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) means she is better. They don't seem to listen when she admits that she doesn't attack anyone there because she is the smallest and doesn't think she'd win a brawl.
It looks like between the changes to our funding source and Residential Treatment Center (RTC) thinking she has made "significant progress toward discharge" that she is coming home in August -- ready or not. Our one hope is to keep her so busy outside the home that her time in our home is limited to sleeping and maybe one evening a week.
My main goal between now and then is to ensure that she understands that even one minor act of violence will result in a police escort from our home.
All through the report they talk about how our relationship with Kanga has improved due to more frequent contact. Um, there is more frequent contact because they all but threatened us (with loss of funding) if we didn't start visiting her more. Our relationship with her hasn't improved. Both boys have regressed so much since they insisted that sibling visits start (only one visit so far and both boys acted out at school for two solid weeks; Eeyore told his principal that he can't hold it together at school because he so scared that Kanga is going to hit him and that is all he can think about). Even Piglet refuses to speak to her on the phone most of the time.
It is because I am educated about her mental illness that I understand how dangerous she is and the limited hope we have for a non-violent home if/when we have to take her back. They think the fact that she hasn't been violent at the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) means she is better. They don't seem to listen when she admits that she doesn't attack anyone there because she is the smallest and doesn't think she'd win a brawl.
It looks like between the changes to our funding source and Residential Treatment Center (RTC) thinking she has made "significant progress toward discharge" that she is coming home in August -- ready or not. Our one hope is to keep her so busy outside the home that her time in our home is limited to sleeping and maybe one evening a week.
My main goal between now and then is to ensure that she understands that even one minor act of violence will result in a police escort from our home.