My daughter is 17, the oldest of 4, hard to really give full story without background....I was 21 when I had her, elated to say the least(first grandchild, of my parents), adored by all...I am the oldest of 5, so aunt and uncles adore her as well. Got pregnant with her sister when she was 2, husband left me early in pregnancy, he never held a job and moved out of state, tried to get custody(thousands in attorney fees), due to my fear of him taking her from me. I have 100% physical/legal custody, dad never called, wrote, or paid child support....until 6 years ago, he would start jobs, then quit jobs after found by child support services(never felt obligated to pay????) I remarried quickly, when she was 4 and sister was 2, an older man, 15 years my senior, I was 23 and he was 39(never married or had children). We then got pregnant with our first child together, our son....then oopsy baby came along 3 years ago. Now for my daughter, she has been ODD since she was honestly 4, progressively became worse at around 11, my husband being older saw things differently than myself, or maybe I just am so overbearing(I don't know). I have always made excuses for her....I tried to give her everything, more than I could afford. Piano lessons, ballet, soccer, softball, a very long stint in Girl Scouts, church...you name it she tried it, jr. lifeguards, vacations, camping....nothing ever made her happy. My daughter was struggling in school, we spent thousands on tutoring programs, had her diagnosed with add....I refused medications until 6th grade....once on medications, she was worse. She accused husband of physically abusing her, at the time I was working for the local PD...so that was lovely, child protective services got involved(found no abuse).....but with them, you never know where you stand....when those allogations didn't get her the results she was after....the next day she went to school and accused him of sexual abuse.....as you can imagine, this took it's toll on our marriage, (again he was cleared of all charges). This caused family issues with my parents, so my daughter went to live with them for about a year(devastated me to no end), I always wanted my babies with me no matter what....this caused a rift in my family!!!! They believed the accusations made against my husband(which infuriated him)....I was working horrible night shift hours at the PD, not seeing much of my kids or husband. I wound up having affair....then became pregnant(I know Jerry Springer), I fell in love with the man and he and I both left our spouses for each other....turned out the baby was my husbands.....hubby begged me to come back, painfully I did. Kids have been through so much, husband throws affair in my face constantly(which I reluctantly came back to him anyway).....In the mean time, daughter accused my father of the same abuse as husband.....which was absolutely untrue(my parents adore her), so after much consideration we sent her to live with biological dad(who had never been in picture), but of course he was going to be the Savior!!!! Remarried, with (4 kids), couldn't take care of his first 2 but went on to have more??? Well her stay there lasted about 3 months, she adores me, but has gone back and forth.....she actually now knows her real father for what he is!!!!! This hasn't changed her behavior at all though, she can't tell the truth to anyone about anything, she had decided to become a lesbian(because real dad and step-mom accepted it), I have grown to be semi-ok with it!!! Daughter just seeks so much attention, at this point I don't know what to do....she is now in psychiatric in-patient treatment for the second time in the last 2 months(which, honestly seems like their theories....are just that) they aren't helping, they are feeding into her lies.