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New to forum. 18 yo daughter leaves house. I am lost.
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 629376" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>In spite of the age difference, there is nothing you CAN do. You can't make her come home or drop boyfriend. I suggest you keep contact to a minimum and be civil, like she said. It is not the end of the world. Most of all, don't feel like it's a date and you have to make a good impression. If you have to do that, your relationship is shot. Be the person that you are, just don't be a mommy. Be a mother. That's different. Be interested, not afraid. And don't give advice. If I had to be nervous about seeing my kids...I wouldn't even enjoy the times we had together. Now....</p><p></p><p>Do you have your own life going on? Friends, a job, hobbies, a spouse, good times? I suggest moving on with your life. All parents of adult kids have a different role than we used to and I believe in not preaching to grown kids. Let them make their own successes and failures and (this is important) stay out of the relationship unless asked to come into it.</p><p></p><p>And start the rest of your life and make it a good one. I am facing an empty nest for the first time and that's exactly what I also have to do. Our kids are on lone until they are eighteen. Then our relationships change, even though we are sometimes still close. But we are no longer welcome by them to tell them what to do.</p><p></p><p>I'd back off and be low key.</p><p></p><p>Hugs for your hurting mommy heart. I do know it hurts. Mine already does and my daughter hasn't even left for college yet. I know I"ll cry buckets of tears, but I have to let her go. We give them roots to grow and wings to fly and then they start their own adventure, just as we did.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 629376, member: 1550"] In spite of the age difference, there is nothing you CAN do. You can't make her come home or drop boyfriend. I suggest you keep contact to a minimum and be civil, like she said. It is not the end of the world. Most of all, don't feel like it's a date and you have to make a good impression. If you have to do that, your relationship is shot. Be the person that you are, just don't be a mommy. Be a mother. That's different. Be interested, not afraid. And don't give advice. If I had to be nervous about seeing my kids...I wouldn't even enjoy the times we had together. Now.... Do you have your own life going on? Friends, a job, hobbies, a spouse, good times? I suggest moving on with your life. All parents of adult kids have a different role than we used to and I believe in not preaching to grown kids. Let them make their own successes and failures and (this is important) stay out of the relationship unless asked to come into it. And start the rest of your life and make it a good one. I am facing an empty nest for the first time and that's exactly what I also have to do. Our kids are on lone until they are eighteen. Then our relationships change, even though we are sometimes still close. But we are no longer welcome by them to tell them what to do. I'd back off and be low key. Hugs for your hurting mommy heart. I do know it hurts. Mine already does and my daughter hasn't even left for college yet. I know I"ll cry buckets of tears, but I have to let her go. We give them roots to grow and wings to fly and then they start their own adventure, just as we did. [/QUOTE]
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