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<blockquote data-quote="ROE" data-source="post: 40653" data-attributes="member: 2276"><p>In the beginning, I made the mistake of piling on too many consequences. It never did a bit of good, it just caused the situation to escalate until there was nothing left for difficult child to lose and he would still be out of control. T.doctor recommended allowing him to earn privileges back. T.doctor also said he preferred natural consequences.</p><p></p><p>I learned not to dictate punishments when difficult child was out of control, once he was in control of himself an appropriate consequence was enforced: you make a mess you clean it up, you break something you bought it etc...My difficult child was at his worst in his pre-adolescent years. He never had any of his own money to pay for things that he broke. Restitution came in the form of working it off with extra chores.</p><p></p><p>Not all of my difficult child's impulse control issues were in conjunction with OD behavior. He often did silly, stupid things for no good reason. His impulse control improved as he got older.</p><p></p><p>I think you are on the right track having him pay for the window, in my opinion, that is enough for this particular incident.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ROE, post: 40653, member: 2276"] In the beginning, I made the mistake of piling on too many consequences. It never did a bit of good, it just caused the situation to escalate until there was nothing left for difficult child to lose and he would still be out of control. T.doctor recommended allowing him to earn privileges back. T.doctor also said he preferred natural consequences. I learned not to dictate punishments when difficult child was out of control, once he was in control of himself an appropriate consequence was enforced: you make a mess you clean it up, you break something you bought it etc...My difficult child was at his worst in his pre-adolescent years. He never had any of his own money to pay for things that he broke. Restitution came in the form of working it off with extra chores. Not all of my difficult child's impulse control issues were in conjunction with OD behavior. He often did silly, stupid things for no good reason. His impulse control improved as he got older. I think you are on the right track having him pay for the window, in my opinion, that is enough for this particular incident. [/QUOTE]
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