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<blockquote data-quote="neednewtechnique" data-source="post: 40693" data-attributes="member: 3527"><p>Finding that trying to punish our difficult children while they are in the midst of a meltdown will only make the situation worse, in the instance of a child who has impulsive tendencies and isn't really capable of thinking about consequences before acting, I would agree that you need to get ahold of THE EXPLOSIVE CHILD like YESTERDAY. This book is ALL about working on defusing these stressful situations WAY before they happen and helping teach the children HOW to get their impulses under control. THIS is the BIG key, because for a child with these tendencies, it simply CANNOT be about punishments and consequences for inappropriate actions, becuase they won't mean anything to him at the time. Not only that but we as parents MUST find ways to teach and train our children HOW to function despite their disorders. As difficult as it is, that HAS to remain the ultimate goal, and if it is made obvious that consequences will not help, not only do we need to learn the way to defuse the situation before it turns into a meltdown, but once we can do that, we then need to find ways to help our difficult child's learn to recognize their "meltdown patterns" and start to figure out how to defuse the situations for themselves. </p><p></p><p>I know I already said hello, but after a few other posts, I thought I would go ahead and throw my 2 cents in again. And welcome again...I am glad you are here!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="neednewtechnique, post: 40693, member: 3527"] Finding that trying to punish our difficult children while they are in the midst of a meltdown will only make the situation worse, in the instance of a child who has impulsive tendencies and isn't really capable of thinking about consequences before acting, I would agree that you need to get ahold of THE EXPLOSIVE CHILD like YESTERDAY. This book is ALL about working on defusing these stressful situations WAY before they happen and helping teach the children HOW to get their impulses under control. THIS is the BIG key, because for a child with these tendencies, it simply CANNOT be about punishments and consequences for inappropriate actions, becuase they won't mean anything to him at the time. Not only that but we as parents MUST find ways to teach and train our children HOW to function despite their disorders. As difficult as it is, that HAS to remain the ultimate goal, and if it is made obvious that consequences will not help, not only do we need to learn the way to defuse the situation before it turns into a meltdown, but once we can do that, we then need to find ways to help our difficult child's learn to recognize their "meltdown patterns" and start to figure out how to defuse the situations for themselves. I know I already said hello, but after a few other posts, I thought I would go ahead and throw my 2 cents in again. And welcome again...I am glad you are here!! [/QUOTE]
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