Hello everyone, I am Tracy. I have one biological child 7y girl. Another step child 12y girl. Married to their dad. (2 dogs - Pit bull and a pomeranian). I will try to condense the story so not to bore everyone. I met Scott (husband) 8 yrs ago. difficult child was 4 at that time. We never really bonded. She always seemed to have issues. Whining, crying, being bratty etc. husband lived with his mom @ the time and they were raising difficult child at that point. Her biological mom is a meth addict who lives in CO. We were in Memphis. She had only met bio mom twice. I moved away to Boston in 2010 without husband or difficult child, just pc7 and I. This wasn't because of issues with- difficult child, more between husband and I. A year later he joined us. 7 months later she joined us (difficult child). Now, we hadn't really ever bonded and she was a handful. He works crazy hours so wasn't around to really see what was happening. She was able to literally turn the house upside down in a couple of months. Main issues we had, will not shower, will not clean room, cries during homework, won't / cannot focus on anything, talks back constantly. Final straw was she contacted DSS and they investigated. The next day, I put her back on a plane to Memphis. Fast forward. I decided to begin taking Prozac and Ativan. My overall mood has gotten much better and I am able to sit on Skype with difficult child and not feel upset/annoyed/frustrated. That is a big step for me considering I felt as though if I never saw this child again it would be too soon. Over the past 2 months we've talked a lot and I've talked to her grandma. We decided this week we are going to bring her back here with us. Where I need advice is....should I be taking her to a doctor? Her grandma has in the past and initially was told ADHD and then later told dystimia? She tried medication and difficult child was a zombie then finally refused to take it at all. She has trouble concentrating (does good on class work but bombs almost every test), hates homework would rather be in internet. Tendency to talk to herself and says that she has no idea why she does it and doesn't really realize she's doing it. Has melt downs very quickly when she doesn't get her way. Are these all just normal pre teen things? Thanks in advance for reading all that!