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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 643716" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Welcome STTP. I'm glad you decided to join us. As you have read, you are not alone, there are many of us here with a similar story. It's a tough road.</p><p></p><p>MWM has given you good advice. I am a believer in getting as much support as we can. Starting with Al Anon will be very helpful for you. You may want to read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post here. You may also want to read Codependent no More by Melodie Beattie. Any books by Pema Chodron, Brene Brown and Eckhart Tolle have been very helpful to me. Private therapy has helped many of us here. You may also try NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness, they have chapters in many cities and offer excellent parent courses. There is much support out there for US.</p><p></p><p>While your son is in inpatient, it may be a very good time for you to get the support that you need so that you can learn to detach from your sons choices and accept what you cannot change. Why your son acts in the way he does may be the big unanswered question. We may never find out the "why" of it, but the solution for YOU is likely to be the one to change. Your son is the only one who can make any changes for himself.........or not. You can choose to learn a different way to respond so that you are not dragged around by his behavior and his choices. It is not easy, but it is doable.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there, keep posting, get support and be very kind to yourself..........it is a good idea to shift the focus off of your son and put it on YOU........doing that will strengthen you, nourish you and give you the opportunity to be able to make healthy choices for you and for your son. I'm glad you're here with us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 643716, member: 13542"] Welcome STTP. I'm glad you decided to join us. As you have read, you are not alone, there are many of us here with a similar story. It's a tough road. MWM has given you good advice. I am a believer in getting as much support as we can. Starting with Al Anon will be very helpful for you. You may want to read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post here. You may also want to read Codependent no More by Melodie Beattie. Any books by Pema Chodron, Brene Brown and Eckhart Tolle have been very helpful to me. Private therapy has helped many of us here. You may also try NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness, they have chapters in many cities and offer excellent parent courses. There is much support out there for US. While your son is in inpatient, it may be a very good time for you to get the support that you need so that you can learn to detach from your sons choices and accept what you cannot change. Why your son acts in the way he does may be the big unanswered question. We may never find out the "why" of it, but the solution for YOU is likely to be the one to change. Your son is the only one who can make any changes for himself.........or not. You can choose to learn a different way to respond so that you are not dragged around by his behavior and his choices. It is not easy, but it is doable. Hang in there, keep posting, get support and be very kind to yourself..........it is a good idea to shift the focus off of your son and put it on YOU........doing that will strengthen you, nourish you and give you the opportunity to be able to make healthy choices for you and for your son. I'm glad you're here with us. [/QUOTE]
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