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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 53147"><p>Are there no other child psychiatrist's in your area on your insurance plan? What about trying at your local children's or university hospital? Because the kids don't seem to be responding very well to the medications they are on, and because of bio-mom's mood disorder, I would really push for a psychiatric evaluation - a multi-disciplinary evaluation would be best if you can swing it. There is info on that on the FAQ board.</p><p></p><p>I agree that some kids need medications. However, I am not one that is willing to just try a medication and "let's see what happens" as has been recommended often. I refused medications for difficult child until we had a (somewhat) firm diagnosis. For years, noone could give me that answer, but wanted to medicate symptoms. Medicating symptoms may have very well worked, but it would have hidden the issue from being identified and treated. Further, medications have so many side effects and if you medicate, for example, a bipolar child with SSRI's you're looking for trouble. I wasn't positive that my difficult child was not bipolar, but the professionals wanted to throw an SSRI at her and if it induced mania, well then we'd just have to go to the hospital and at least then we would know, they said. They were very nonchalant about it. That just wasn't acceptable to me. I received a lot of criticism because of that, but I didn't care. I was doing what I felt was best for my child. My difficult child is vulnerable on her best days. Ending up in the hospital because of medication-induced mania may have very well broken her. I had days where I felt like a horrible mother for not medicating (in the days before we did), because difficult child was so miserable and I knew she needed something. I just wanted to know what that was first. So much of psychiatry is trial and error. </p><p></p><p>As far as what the teachers say, so what? They don't know what's going on in your home. They don't have training in these kinds of issues. So many people think they have the answer - as if I wouldn't have done that already if it were only so easy. I got that a lot. I've been told that I was the one with the problem, not difficult child. I was told I need to be more strict, less overprotective, etc. I understand where you are coming from. It takes time, but eventually you get to the place where you realize that others speak out of their ignorance. It makes it easier to ignore others probably well-intentioned, but ill-advised, advice. Do the kids have an IEP in place at school?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 53147"] Are there no other child psychiatrist's in your area on your insurance plan? What about trying at your local children's or university hospital? Because the kids don't seem to be responding very well to the medications they are on, and because of bio-mom's mood disorder, I would really push for a psychiatric evaluation - a multi-disciplinary evaluation would be best if you can swing it. There is info on that on the FAQ board. I agree that some kids need medications. However, I am not one that is willing to just try a medication and "let's see what happens" as has been recommended often. I refused medications for difficult child until we had a (somewhat) firm diagnosis. For years, noone could give me that answer, but wanted to medicate symptoms. Medicating symptoms may have very well worked, but it would have hidden the issue from being identified and treated. Further, medications have so many side effects and if you medicate, for example, a bipolar child with SSRI's you're looking for trouble. I wasn't positive that my difficult child was not bipolar, but the professionals wanted to throw an SSRI at her and if it induced mania, well then we'd just have to go to the hospital and at least then we would know, they said. They were very nonchalant about it. That just wasn't acceptable to me. I received a lot of criticism because of that, but I didn't care. I was doing what I felt was best for my child. My difficult child is vulnerable on her best days. Ending up in the hospital because of medication-induced mania may have very well broken her. I had days where I felt like a horrible mother for not medicating (in the days before we did), because difficult child was so miserable and I knew she needed something. I just wanted to know what that was first. So much of psychiatry is trial and error. As far as what the teachers say, so what? They don't know what's going on in your home. They don't have training in these kinds of issues. So many people think they have the answer - as if I wouldn't have done that already if it were only so easy. I got that a lot. I've been told that I was the one with the problem, not difficult child. I was told I need to be more strict, less overprotective, etc. I understand where you are coming from. It takes time, but eventually you get to the place where you realize that others speak out of their ignorance. It makes it easier to ignore others probably well-intentioned, but ill-advised, advice. Do the kids have an IEP in place at school? [/QUOTE]
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