Hello. I have an issue here that I see many of you are familiar with. An unruly kid. My problem is that this unruly kid isn't mine. Mom and I have been together for 6 years, and her 12 year old son is on my last nerve. Worse yet, we have a 4 year old daughter who sees his behavior every day. Because the stepson's father is still in the picture, a terribly lousy deadbeat, unemployed drug dealer, my discipline methods are severely limited. I spanked him once and had daddy sending his friends after me. He talks back, yells at us, failing 6th grade, lazy, defiant, and he knows what pisses us off. I am so close to taking my daughter and moving out. He goes to counseling but puts his coat over his head and acts like a 4 year old. I am afraid if it keeps up I will either land in jail or my kid will be influenced in a negative way. It isn't fair to my child because she gets away with very little. Mom is only now seeing the light and trying to help me. But I am afraid it is too late to fix this kid. At 12, is he set in his ways? Dad won't let us put him on medication, spank him, take his cell phone away, he says I abuse him. Not a chance. I do not know what other methods of discipline there are. Right now I have him doing chores since he was suspended from school. But it's just a punishment. I know he will learn nothing form the experience.