I just wrote a book on here since I am new to the site....OMG I was not logged in! LOL! K gonna summarize this time....My fiance has two children 11b 6g with ODD and I having three children 22b 19g 15b I have never experienced children with ODD. I believe this is going to make or break our relationship..,everything else is great. He finally made a phone call to have the children get an evaluation after me bugging him, not that he didn't want to, but he feels its his fault they are the way they are,,,with previous relationship with their mother has always been yelling,,,even the kids yelling, fighting etc with each other and their parents,,,His six year old said after spending time here in the beginning of our relationship says "Daddy, why don't you cuss or yell anymore?' and his 11 yr old says "Daddy, do you two ever fight?" That told me right there what kind of life they have with their mother, who I believe has some type of mental problems herself, but does not want to admit it,,,I was on a forum a few years ago when I was going thru a seperation/divorce due to my ex cheating and found it to helpful and theraputic too!