And feel VERY ALONE! Our day started immediately with battles...the amount of milk in the cereal bowl, not enough juice in the cup, not getting dressed. He's defiant, I'm tired = not a good combo! But, this behavior is typical and what we battle with daily. I feel helpless(I don't know what to do to), alone(everyone elses children are not this difficult, even my other child isn't), and judged(my perception is that others must think that I'm just not a good mother!). The tension from constantly dealing with behavior issues with the youngest, I feel is causing a wedge between me and my oldest. And, I'm beginning to sense bitterness and anger towards my husband. I googled "help for moms of difficult children" and found this site. I'm hoping to find some support and it seems like there is a lot here. Also, I plan to hit the library this afternoon to check out a few of those books on the recommended reading list. I know there's not any questions in this post, I'm just introducing myself and getting a post out there to get started. I have 2 children, both boys. 1 is 18 and a great child. The 2nd is 5 and is the difficult, defiant one. We've been married 11 years.