I have an 8 year old daughter that is diagnosed with ADHD and possibly ODD. She also has a sleep disorder which has been effecting her since she was a baby. She's been having lots of problems with school, despite medications. she's in therapy pretty much weekly and sees a psychiatrist. I am engaged to be married next month. My fiance, I'll call him Mike, moved in with us the end of February and has been very patient with my daughter, I'll call her Marie, and has helped me a lot with finding new ways to deal with her. However, he's begining to get discouraged and is starting to have second thoughts about marrying me, because of Marie's out of control behavior. It seems like I'm pretty much the only person that has any control over her, and that's not even very much most of the time. We're reading a great book right now, called "the defiant child", and we're both learning a lot but I'm really stressed right now and needed some "outside" support. she's getting suspended pretty much weekly, and is in trouble pretty much daily at school. She just started Stattara once a day a little over a month ago and the dose was just increased (from the minimum) about a week ago. Previously she was on Ritalin which was becoming ineffective at the max dose for her weight, and was causing further sleep problems despite her Trazodone.