Ok, so I am reaching out cause I am at my wits end and I am out of ideas on what to do. I am in a relationship with a wonderful woman and getting married in October. She has 2 kids that are living with us, 5 and 13. The 5 yr old has been diagnosed with ADHD and behavioral defiance disorder. He is currently on Intuniv. We have setup a reward/sticker chart for him and have tried everything from being nice and rewarding to yelling and nothing seems to work. We got a very disturbing phone call today that he struck another child in school in the stomach, this is after we have told him numerous times that if a child is "annoying" him he is to tell the teacher and NOT to hit or touch ANYONE. I am furious and so is his mom. We decided to take away all toys that had anything to do with violence with no chance of him getting them back as well as banning him from any movies or tv shows with any hint of violence and he is not allowed to play any games that show aggression at all. I am so fustrated and at my wits end. If anyone has any ideas on how not to flip out on a child who is repeatidly doesnt listen and defies everything that is said to him please let me know. We have limited his sugar intake and watch what he eats, and completely cut out fast food. I need help, I love him and dont want to scar him but I dont know what to do. Please help...thanks.