iluvmickey0206
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Hi,
Wanted to introduce myself. As my sig shows I have a 16 yr old difficult child. He is currently diagnosis with mood disorder, ADHD, anxiety, depression, significant Learning Disability (LD), likely borderline personality disorder. He has been out of the home (this time) since last November-the week before Thanksgiving. I had filed a CHINS (child in need of services) with the court as he was a runaway. He was arrested and placed in DCF (Department of Children and Families) custody. They have physical custody, I retain legal rights. He was placed in a diagnostic facility for what was supposed to be 60 days and turned into 4 months due to beurocracy. He has since been in a group home for boys with mental illness since late March. It is sad, but really also the best thing. I was (and still feel) uncapable of parenting him. He is very explosive which made disciplining near impossible. I was exposing my daughter to way too much. He tends to cycle mood wise every 2 weeks or so, but recently had a good 3 1/2 weeks. Then they decided to decrease his Seroquel. He is now agitated, depressed and showing some paranoia. Why would you mess with a stable kids medications?????
He also goes to a therapeutic school. He is not invested at all in his education. He will be a sophmore in the fall, but really should remain a freshman. I don't see how he could have possible passed more than one class this past year. But, they will make him a sophmore and give him appropriate work. He is going to be 17 in October so keeping him a freshman would be very difficult for his self esteem. He plans to drop out at 18 and live on the street. It is so sad and I hope this doesn't happen.
The goal right now is reunification, but I don't know that I could ever take him back home. Any slight mention of him returning home causes panic in me.
My daughter is not allowed to see him because my ex says she can't. He is worried about difficult child's unpredictable behavior and exposing her to it, but I think if I checked in and he was stable a short visit would be good for both of them. I don't know how he feels he can make these decisions when he is not involved with difficult child at all and knows nothing about what is going on.
First family therapy attempt this afternoon. Wish me luck!
Thanks for listening and reading my long intro
Wanted to introduce myself. As my sig shows I have a 16 yr old difficult child. He is currently diagnosis with mood disorder, ADHD, anxiety, depression, significant Learning Disability (LD), likely borderline personality disorder. He has been out of the home (this time) since last November-the week before Thanksgiving. I had filed a CHINS (child in need of services) with the court as he was a runaway. He was arrested and placed in DCF (Department of Children and Families) custody. They have physical custody, I retain legal rights. He was placed in a diagnostic facility for what was supposed to be 60 days and turned into 4 months due to beurocracy. He has since been in a group home for boys with mental illness since late March. It is sad, but really also the best thing. I was (and still feel) uncapable of parenting him. He is very explosive which made disciplining near impossible. I was exposing my daughter to way too much. He tends to cycle mood wise every 2 weeks or so, but recently had a good 3 1/2 weeks. Then they decided to decrease his Seroquel. He is now agitated, depressed and showing some paranoia. Why would you mess with a stable kids medications?????
He also goes to a therapeutic school. He is not invested at all in his education. He will be a sophmore in the fall, but really should remain a freshman. I don't see how he could have possible passed more than one class this past year. But, they will make him a sophmore and give him appropriate work. He is going to be 17 in October so keeping him a freshman would be very difficult for his self esteem. He plans to drop out at 18 and live on the street. It is so sad and I hope this doesn't happen.
The goal right now is reunification, but I don't know that I could ever take him back home. Any slight mention of him returning home causes panic in me.
My daughter is not allowed to see him because my ex says she can't. He is worried about difficult child's unpredictable behavior and exposing her to it, but I think if I checked in and he was stable a short visit would be good for both of them. I don't know how he feels he can make these decisions when he is not involved with difficult child at all and knows nothing about what is going on.
First family therapy attempt this afternoon. Wish me luck!
Thanks for listening and reading my long intro