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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 728458" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Welcome</p><p></p><p>It sounds like you are already on the right track. We did not have our son leave our home until after I found this forum. I never even thought of doing that!</p><p></p><p>I have found that a therapist that specializes in addiction has been a great help to me. She helped me create firm boundaries for our son. He needs them as much as we do. I found that groups made me more hopeless and depressed and I got my group fix here on the forum.</p><p></p><p>Our son would agree to go rehab (over and over again - notice the irony in that) but when he would return home after a few months he would go back to his same habits. This went on for many years but he was a minor so our hands were tied. There have been many, many struggles with him. We now have him in a long term faith based program and we are beginning to see changes in his thinking that I only dreamt about. I was literally like "brainwash him please"!! However it's not like that there at all and it is truly a wonderful program with caring and loving people and I have witnessed several graduation stories of lives that have been turned around. My husband literally <strong>left him in the parking lot </strong>of the place, backpack in hand and crying when he refused to go in.</p><p></p><p>I feel it best to treat this when they are young so their life is not wasted on this swirly whirly madness they live in. I did not want to see him waste any more time spinning his wheels and going nowhere. A few men in my son's program are well into their late 40's, some even 50's but the majority seem to be 20 somethings.</p><p></p><p>There is no one size fits all answer. There is no right or wrong. This is an individual journey for each and every one of us as parents to an addicted young adult. We all do what we can bear.</p><p></p><p>Take what you need and leave the rest. You will find a lot of wisdom and comfort here with others that truly get it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 728458, member: 15032"] Welcome It sounds like you are already on the right track. We did not have our son leave our home until after I found this forum. I never even thought of doing that! I have found that a therapist that specializes in addiction has been a great help to me. She helped me create firm boundaries for our son. He needs them as much as we do. I found that groups made me more hopeless and depressed and I got my group fix here on the forum. Our son would agree to go rehab (over and over again - notice the irony in that) but when he would return home after a few months he would go back to his same habits. This went on for many years but he was a minor so our hands were tied. There have been many, many struggles with him. We now have him in a long term faith based program and we are beginning to see changes in his thinking that I only dreamt about. I was literally like "brainwash him please"!! However it's not like that there at all and it is truly a wonderful program with caring and loving people and I have witnessed several graduation stories of lives that have been turned around. My husband literally [B]left him in the parking lot [/B]of the place, backpack in hand and crying when he refused to go in. I feel it best to treat this when they are young so their life is not wasted on this swirly whirly madness they live in. I did not want to see him waste any more time spinning his wheels and going nowhere. A few men in my son's program are well into their late 40's, some even 50's but the majority seem to be 20 somethings. There is no one size fits all answer. There is no right or wrong. This is an individual journey for each and every one of us as parents to an addicted young adult. We all do what we can bear. Take what you need and leave the rest. You will find a lot of wisdom and comfort here with others that truly get it. [/QUOTE]
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