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stressedmama
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Personally I hate the term difficult child. I don't feel I am deserving of that type of "gift." And God knows none of my other 3 are perfect children!
Welcome, Shan! If you've read any other posts, I'm sure you've come across the saying "take what helps, leave the rest behind." We've all been (or still are) in a similar situation and are here to help and get help.
Hugs for your hurting heart!
Welcome, Shan! If you've read any other posts, I'm sure you've come across the saying "take what helps, leave the rest behind." We've all been (or still are) in a similar situation and are here to help and get help.
Hugs for your hurting heart!
BusynMember
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Suzir, our poster from France said almost the same thing about France. But, to be honest, although MOST (emphasis on that) Americans won't go up to somebody and tell their kid to "quiet, down, dear", that doesn't mean they aren't thinking, "What's WRONG with that kid and his parents...has to be the parents fault. Why don't they DO something?" I can not tell you the looks I got when I took Sonic shopping. This was when we first got him, at two, and were not sure he was autistic. He liked to run off and scream like a wounded primal animal, then roll on the floor like she was being killed. I ran after him like a crazy lady and I"m sure the entire mall was looking in horror. When I got to him he'd hit and kick and wouldn't let me pick him up without biting me so I picked him up and he bit me and I had tears in my eyes. I just knew everyone was thinking, "What is she doing, abducting the poor little boy?" (I am white and he's black, which made for extra drama.
Yet nobody said anything, but they did stare and stop what they were doing and if cell phones had been around back then, I'm sure somebody would have called the police.
Bet we made dinner table news in many homes that night.
Americans are more apt to give you a nasty look or mumble loudly to their friend, "Can you SEE that???" Some WILL come up to you and boldly tell you that they would never tolerate that. Some will even said, from a distance, that the if that was his kid, he'd wallop him.
It is highly embarassing to deal with bad behavior in public and I'm pretty sure, although it's handled perhaps a bit differently, we all blush the same shade of fuchsia when it does happen.
We won't even get into what teachers say. That to me was always the worst. 37 was never "teacher's pet."
BusynMember
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Oh, Shan, please don't go. Why not tell us your story? I'm so sorry the thread was sidetracked. It was my fault. We care about your issues and, trust me, whatever they are, we have heard of them. We've heard way too much.
Jabberwockey
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I wouldn't say it was side tracked. She asked for clarification on difficult child and probably got more than she bargained for! But yes Shan, feel free to share with the class. There is a variety of experience here and even if nobody has ever gone through anything close to what you are, we can at least offer moral support!
BusynMember
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Oh, trust me. Whatever she has gone through, somebody has too.
AppleCori
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Hmm...
difficult child...
I look at it as a name, like Joe or Sam or Jen.
Except its a name for people with certain traits that make them difficult to live with and difficult for them to fit into societal norms.
They often have drug/alcohol addictions or mental health problems.
They are wired differently.
But the semantics of what to call them...
I just see three letters.
difficult child...
I look at it as a name, like Joe or Sam or Jen.
Except its a name for people with certain traits that make them difficult to live with and difficult for them to fit into societal norms.
They often have drug/alcohol addictions or mental health problems.
They are wired differently.
But the semantics of what to call them...
I just see three letters.
Jabberwockey
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Ok, not sure what happened here. I typed difficult child but it put difficult child?
Weird, its changing it to that after I click post.
Lil
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No matter how old they get...they'll always be our children.
Lil
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I absolutely agree with you there.
BusynMember
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We can always use DAC Difficult Adult Child if we like. I mean, they don't follow any rules. We don't need to follow exact rules either, right? 
PatriotsGirl
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Lmao I love "good freaking grief"...very fitting!!
No problem I think I got the different codes .
I'm here trust me I posted before and took your guys advice and it's a lot better. My little precious angels are treating me much better as is husband bc I think they are all freaked out bc I'm reacting differently than usual when they say or do something. No worries about hijacking it's sll good
