I live just outside London uk, and I am having lots of problems with my 14 year old daughter who is currently under assessment for adhd/odd. She has had problems since small but more as she has got older. It seems that the american websites have more information and advice than the uk ones, so I am hoping that people on this site may be able to give me some more valuable (positive) advice on how to help her as I am struggling sometimes. The main problems are lots of lying, refusing to comply, swearing (more recently) arguing back with teachers at school (in fact 7 out of 8 on the odd lists I have seen). Mostly I am trying to keep positive and praise the good behaviour etc. The problems have recently been made worse by firstly my separation from my husband (although I think generally that is better as he may be adhd, which I understand is not unusual), secondly she has started her periods and around that time we have huge tantrums that are worse than usual. It would be nice to hear from any of you that are maybe in the same position, particularly with odd as I am worried these symptoms will get worse. Thanks for reading this.