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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 675588" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I was like this. I have a profession that is a helping profession. I work with people worse than my son who trusted me. Who confide in me and depend upon my integrity and my caring and my responsibility to them. Like you do.</p><p></p><p>It devastated me that I felt such anger for my own child who I could not accept as he was. </p><p></p><p>I see it now as my issue. I wanted him to be as I wanted him to be. What a set up for both of us. </p><p></p><p>He is he. You are you. </p><p></p><p>It is exciting. Tremendous. Freeing. When we begin to see it that way.</p><p></p><p>Now I only expect that he treat me well. By that I mean respect my limits, that I have made explicit. That is all. </p><p></p><p>I have gratitude when he does that. Of course I want more for him. But I have learned that my wanting does not any good. It gets in the way.</p><p></p><p>I am free now. He is too. To be who he chooses. Me, I can do what I want and need now. Focus on me. I could never have imagined how liberating that would be.</p><p></p><p>I am hopeful. I am hopeful for you. We will be OK. Our sons will be OK, too. I know that now. My son on his own terms, not on mine.</p><p></p><p>I am so glad you are here. Glad you have found us. Keep posting. It helps to post. Merry Christmas. So pleased for you and and your child that today was a good one.</p><p></p><p>COPA</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 675588, member: 18958"] I was like this. I have a profession that is a helping profession. I work with people worse than my son who trusted me. Who confide in me and depend upon my integrity and my caring and my responsibility to them. Like you do. It devastated me that I felt such anger for my own child who I could not accept as he was. I see it now as my issue. I wanted him to be as I wanted him to be. What a set up for both of us. He is he. You are you. It is exciting. Tremendous. Freeing. When we begin to see it that way. Now I only expect that he treat me well. By that I mean respect my limits, that I have made explicit. That is all. I have gratitude when he does that. Of course I want more for him. But I have learned that my wanting does not any good. It gets in the way. I am free now. He is too. To be who he chooses. Me, I can do what I want and need now. Focus on me. I could never have imagined how liberating that would be. I am hopeful. I am hopeful for you. We will be OK. Our sons will be OK, too. I know that now. My son on his own terms, not on mine. I am so glad you are here. Glad you have found us. Keep posting. It helps to post. Merry Christmas. So pleased for you and and your child that today was a good one. COPA [/QUOTE]
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