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<blockquote data-quote="jal" data-source="post: 26650" data-attributes="member: 3477"><p>Hi,</p><p></p><p>I am relatively new here too for posting, but have been lurking for a long time. I can absolutely relate to your situation. My difficult child is 4.5 now. He started exhibiting around 18 months to 2 yrs. He was also kicked out of preschool at 2.5 for uncontrolable behavior. Hitting, running from the classroom, rages where he tore apart classrooms. He was then "tolerated in a home daycare", we later transitioned him to preschool where they could not control him and subsequently kicked him out. He is currently in another preschool with very caring teachers. </p><p></p><p>We used a psychotherapist and a behaviorist to hone our parenting techniques, but nothing worked. He has been to a pyschologist who said ADHD, then BiPolar (BP), a child psychiatrist who said ADHD only and is currently with a new child psychiatrist and working with an evolving BiPolar (BP) diagnosis. He is currently doing wonderfully on Abilify. ODD has lowered immensely. </p><p></p><p>Honestly, in my opinion going to the right psychiatrist has made a world of difference. My difficult child is calmer, more apt to think before throwing something or getting angry and it has only been 4 weeks under the new psychiatrist's care. Preschool has seen a major decrease in ODD. We are happier for it and so is difficult child. We are not yelling, being called to pick him up from school and all enjoying family life for the first time in a while. It is not perfect, but it is much better.</p><p></p><p>We did a school evaluation to see if he qualified for sp-ed preschool, which he did not, but we do have another meeting with the elem school team next week to make sure if he needs services when he goes in Sept that they will be there. I too worry about labeling him at this young age, but the stress of the past 2.5 years has been unbearable. Take a look in your family history (on both sides) for any red flags (depression, alcholism, BiPolar (BP) etc.) </p><p></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #3333FF">He is at home with me and driving me crazy. He explodes constantly. Many times I don't even know why he is angry. He hits me, hits his baby sister. Screams at us. Will throw everything in his room. He cries a lot when he is angry. He also now has started slapping himself when he is upset</span></p><p></p><p>My difficult child did these things too. The word NO set him off like you wouldn't believe. He was hitting husband and myself when he was angry. He would kick at us and went through a period of biting himself in anger.</p><p></p><p>I hope for your sanity you go through with the psychiatrist. Just to find out what is up with your child. It can be upsetting, but remember he is going through some scary times in his mind too and you need to offer him all the help you can. For me it was worth it as now I get a lot more I love you's from him than I hate you's.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jal, post: 26650, member: 3477"] Hi, I am relatively new here too for posting, but have been lurking for a long time. I can absolutely relate to your situation. My difficult child is 4.5 now. He started exhibiting around 18 months to 2 yrs. He was also kicked out of preschool at 2.5 for uncontrolable behavior. Hitting, running from the classroom, rages where he tore apart classrooms. He was then "tolerated in a home daycare", we later transitioned him to preschool where they could not control him and subsequently kicked him out. He is currently in another preschool with very caring teachers. We used a psychotherapist and a behaviorist to hone our parenting techniques, but nothing worked. He has been to a pyschologist who said ADHD, then BiPolar (BP), a child psychiatrist who said ADHD only and is currently with a new child psychiatrist and working with an evolving BiPolar (BP) diagnosis. He is currently doing wonderfully on Abilify. ODD has lowered immensely. Honestly, in my opinion going to the right psychiatrist has made a world of difference. My difficult child is calmer, more apt to think before throwing something or getting angry and it has only been 4 weeks under the new psychiatrist's care. Preschool has seen a major decrease in ODD. We are happier for it and so is difficult child. We are not yelling, being called to pick him up from school and all enjoying family life for the first time in a while. It is not perfect, but it is much better. We did a school evaluation to see if he qualified for sp-ed preschool, which he did not, but we do have another meeting with the elem school team next week to make sure if he needs services when he goes in Sept that they will be there. I too worry about labeling him at this young age, but the stress of the past 2.5 years has been unbearable. Take a look in your family history (on both sides) for any red flags (depression, alcholism, BiPolar (BP) etc.) <span style="color: #3333FF">He is at home with me and driving me crazy. He explodes constantly. Many times I don't even know why he is angry. He hits me, hits his baby sister. Screams at us. Will throw everything in his room. He cries a lot when he is angry. He also now has started slapping himself when he is upset</span> My difficult child did these things too. The word NO set him off like you wouldn't believe. He was hitting husband and myself when he was angry. He would kick at us and went through a period of biting himself in anger. I hope for your sanity you go through with the psychiatrist. Just to find out what is up with your child. It can be upsetting, but remember he is going through some scary times in his mind too and you need to offer him all the help you can. For me it was worth it as now I get a lot more I love you's from him than I hate you's. [/QUOTE]
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