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<blockquote data-quote="neednewtechnique" data-source="post: 32743" data-attributes="member: 3527"><p>First of all, I would like to welcome you to the board!! I know it is sort of bittersweet, because most of us didn't WANT to have to seek out this kind of help for our adorable little difficult child's, but at the same time, this board has been more help to most of us than anything! </p><p></p><p>The one thing that keeps popping up in my head when I read your post and your responses and the information you have provided. All children in general have a certain threshold of what can and cannot be tolerated without a negative reaction from them. It seems that our difficult child's have a much more fragile threshold than some other kids. But as you mention his sensory issues, it makes me wonder if he is being "overstimulated" in such a disorganized, free environment. For some difficult child's that have problems in school, they may blossom in such a free atmosphere, but if your son is really advanced in his intellectual development and is ready to learn, he may benefit from a more normal, organized classroom environment. My difficult child is 12 now, and she, like your son, has never had problems at school but has been challenging at home. I am not sure what a public charter school is, but from the things that you are saying, I gather that it is a school for children with special needs. Whether it be developmental issues or behavioral....</p><p>The old statement "if it isn't broke, don't fix it" seems to be appropriate. If your son was not having any problems at school before, that would lead me to believe that he may do better in a regular school, whether public or private. Children his age are very perceptive. They see a lot of things that most adults don't think they see, and sometimes they interpret things inappropriately. In addition to what I mentioned above about environment, I think there are two other battles you may be fighting. For starters, your child is plenty old enough to take notice of the problems his classmates have, and if he thinks that he is there because he has "problems" he may act out in his frustration for having to go there. Also, if this school is geared towards kids with "problems", the staff may be trying to make something of nothing, just because they expect to have problems. </p><p></p><p>Our difficult child is 12 and attends public school, as like your son, never really had problems at school before. And she does very well with it. I think if we tried to put her in a different school, she would act out just because of her frustration at having to be there. </p><p></p><p>Just some thoughts, but I agree with most of what the other parents have said about the meeting, I would get your own evaluations and things done, rather than using the school's system as again, if they are used to working with "problem children" they may also be trying to read more into things than what's really there. Good luck and again, welcome!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="neednewtechnique, post: 32743, member: 3527"] First of all, I would like to welcome you to the board!! I know it is sort of bittersweet, because most of us didn't WANT to have to seek out this kind of help for our adorable little difficult child's, but at the same time, this board has been more help to most of us than anything! The one thing that keeps popping up in my head when I read your post and your responses and the information you have provided. All children in general have a certain threshold of what can and cannot be tolerated without a negative reaction from them. It seems that our difficult child's have a much more fragile threshold than some other kids. But as you mention his sensory issues, it makes me wonder if he is being "overstimulated" in such a disorganized, free environment. For some difficult child's that have problems in school, they may blossom in such a free atmosphere, but if your son is really advanced in his intellectual development and is ready to learn, he may benefit from a more normal, organized classroom environment. My difficult child is 12 now, and she, like your son, has never had problems at school but has been challenging at home. I am not sure what a public charter school is, but from the things that you are saying, I gather that it is a school for children with special needs. Whether it be developmental issues or behavioral.... The old statement "if it isn't broke, don't fix it" seems to be appropriate. If your son was not having any problems at school before, that would lead me to believe that he may do better in a regular school, whether public or private. Children his age are very perceptive. They see a lot of things that most adults don't think they see, and sometimes they interpret things inappropriately. In addition to what I mentioned above about environment, I think there are two other battles you may be fighting. For starters, your child is plenty old enough to take notice of the problems his classmates have, and if he thinks that he is there because he has "problems" he may act out in his frustration for having to go there. Also, if this school is geared towards kids with "problems", the staff may be trying to make something of nothing, just because they expect to have problems. Our difficult child is 12 and attends public school, as like your son, never really had problems at school before. And she does very well with it. I think if we tried to put her in a different school, she would act out just because of her frustration at having to be there. Just some thoughts, but I agree with most of what the other parents have said about the meeting, I would get your own evaluations and things done, rather than using the school's system as again, if they are used to working with "problem children" they may also be trying to read more into things than what's really there. Good luck and again, welcome! [/QUOTE]
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