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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 8430" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>HI, hon. You have your hands full. Sound like a great, caring mother and only 23! My 22 year old daughter couldn't do what you are. Ok, here's some advice. First of all, look at the family tree on both sides and see if there are any psyschiatric problems, substance abuse, or neurological problems on either side. Substance abuse is usually a symptom that the person is self-medicating, say, a mood disorder. Include "funny" relatives who were not diagnosed. Most things are inheritied! Secondly, I would call a children or university hospital and schedule a Multi-Disciplinary Evaluation. This is a group of professionals who will assess your child to come up with a 'working diagnosis' and a plan. ODD itself is not very useful--it is usually behavior caused for a bigger disorder--a description of symptoms more than a stand alone diagnosis. I think most kids here exhibit symptoms of ODD, but it can accompany ADD, Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), bipolar, anxiety disorder etc. I'd say your child can have any of those or a combination. I'm not the professional. At your child's age getting an "accurate" picture is hard, but you could get something to work with, and perhaps medications and a behavior plan that will alleviate the tension in your home and calm your child enough to work with him. I strongly recommend th evaluation. STRONGLY. Did I say strongly? :wink: Then I'd order the book "The Explosive Child" to give you suggestions on what to do until you get your son on track (and you WILL get him on track--it just take effort, which you are willing to put in, and often time to find the right diagnosis.). If he is that out of control, I'm not sure a typical behavior plan will do anything more than cause you angst, as many times kids with disorders don't follow the rules/books on "How I Raised My Perfect Angel." :smile: If there is no good hospital near you, I recommend being willing to travel a few hours to get GOOD help. Good help vs. bad help is imperative. I would take solace knowing NOTHING is your fault and that there IS help. Others will come along who also will give you more suggestions. You are in a good place where everyone cares about you and your kids, and we've been there/done that (been there done that). difficult child means Gift From God (or difficult child that God knew we could handle, although sometimes we all wonder if He picked the wrong Mom). I'm impressed that your young marriage is intact. Good for both of you! Try to get hub on board. (((Hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 8430, member: 1550"] HI, hon. You have your hands full. Sound like a great, caring mother and only 23! My 22 year old daughter couldn't do what you are. Ok, here's some advice. First of all, look at the family tree on both sides and see if there are any psyschiatric problems, substance abuse, or neurological problems on either side. Substance abuse is usually a symptom that the person is self-medicating, say, a mood disorder. Include "funny" relatives who were not diagnosed. Most things are inheritied! Secondly, I would call a children or university hospital and schedule a Multi-Disciplinary Evaluation. This is a group of professionals who will assess your child to come up with a 'working diagnosis' and a plan. ODD itself is not very useful--it is usually behavior caused for a bigger disorder--a description of symptoms more than a stand alone diagnosis. I think most kids here exhibit symptoms of ODD, but it can accompany ADD, Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), bipolar, anxiety disorder etc. I'd say your child can have any of those or a combination. I'm not the professional. At your child's age getting an "accurate" picture is hard, but you could get something to work with, and perhaps medications and a behavior plan that will alleviate the tension in your home and calm your child enough to work with him. I strongly recommend th evaluation. STRONGLY. Did I say strongly? [img]:wink:[/img] Then I'd order the book "The Explosive Child" to give you suggestions on what to do until you get your son on track (and you WILL get him on track--it just take effort, which you are willing to put in, and often time to find the right diagnosis.). If he is that out of control, I'm not sure a typical behavior plan will do anything more than cause you angst, as many times kids with disorders don't follow the rules/books on "How I Raised My Perfect Angel." [img]:smile:[/img] If there is no good hospital near you, I recommend being willing to travel a few hours to get GOOD help. Good help vs. bad help is imperative. I would take solace knowing NOTHING is your fault and that there IS help. Others will come along who also will give you more suggestions. You are in a good place where everyone cares about you and your kids, and we've been there/done that (been there done that). difficult child means Gift From God (or difficult child that God knew we could handle, although sometimes we all wonder if He picked the wrong Mom). I'm impressed that your young marriage is intact. Good for both of you! Try to get hub on board. (((Hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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