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<blockquote data-quote="2much2recover" data-source="post: 642463" data-attributes="member: 18366"><p>I agree that this is the simplest way to get the point across, just say fine and move on to asking about their kids. Most people, (even the nosy, gossipy ones) are more than willing to brag about their own brood if given half a chance.</p><p>Glad you have found the board here - nice that it is open 24/7.</p><p>My daughter has also stolen for me and personally, I find stealing from one's parents as the ultimate act of betrayal. I wonder how (and why) we can go on trusting them while we shake our heads, knowing the truth. We would never, ever allow another known thief to have access to our money/things again but somehow we do and then we are surprised when they steal from us again? They feel entitled and we are left feeling "where did I go wrong". It really is a moral problem with them and in my opinion one that is unfix-able. But boy do we manage to try and control "how we can keep them from stealing from us again". Yet we know the outcome - just as your son found another way when you started hiding the cash, he moved onto the checkbook.</p><p>Also you may want to put a freeze on your credit so that son can not open credit in your husbands name since they share a similar one. We did that ourselves years ago. Think of it like this, if they go through your things looking for money they probably have had access to your SS cards as well & enough info to be able to do this. Putting credit freeze in place prevents anyone from opening credit in your name & for those of us with difficult child's it makes it so "the system" has to bring charges instead of us. Where I live seniors pay nothing and under 65 it is a one fee of $15 per each persons credit for each of the big three. Then there is a small fee if you need to open it to open credit for yourself. <a href="http://www.creditcards.com/credit-card-news/credit-card-freeze-data-1276.php" target="_blank">http://www.creditcards.com/credit-card-news/credit-card-freeze-data-1276.php</a></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="2much2recover, post: 642463, member: 18366"] I agree that this is the simplest way to get the point across, just say fine and move on to asking about their kids. Most people, (even the nosy, gossipy ones) are more than willing to brag about their own brood if given half a chance. Glad you have found the board here - nice that it is open 24/7. My daughter has also stolen for me and personally, I find stealing from one's parents as the ultimate act of betrayal. I wonder how (and why) we can go on trusting them while we shake our heads, knowing the truth. We would never, ever allow another known thief to have access to our money/things again but somehow we do and then we are surprised when they steal from us again? They feel entitled and we are left feeling "where did I go wrong". It really is a moral problem with them and in my opinion one that is unfix-able. But boy do we manage to try and control "how we can keep them from stealing from us again". Yet we know the outcome - just as your son found another way when you started hiding the cash, he moved onto the checkbook. Also you may want to put a freeze on your credit so that son can not open credit in your husbands name since they share a similar one. We did that ourselves years ago. Think of it like this, if they go through your things looking for money they probably have had access to your SS cards as well & enough info to be able to do this. Putting credit freeze in place prevents anyone from opening credit in your name & for those of us with difficult child's it makes it so "the system" has to bring charges instead of us. Where I live seniors pay nothing and under 65 it is a one fee of $15 per each persons credit for each of the big three. Then there is a small fee if you need to open it to open credit for yourself. [url]http://www.creditcards.com/credit-card-news/credit-card-freeze-data-1276.php[/url] [/QUOTE]
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