Hello everyone. So nice to have found this little resting place in cyberspace. My son is 16 now and I've been having power struggles with him since he was 2. Because he is my only child I just thought that was the way kids were. Now it's as if a veil has been lifted and I'm seeing that his defiant behavior is not normal at all (based on research I've done online and speaking with his school counselors). He has not been evaluated for ODD, ADD, ADHD or any of the other alphabet disorders though I am looking for a qualified therapist now. If anyone can recommend a good therapist for adolescents (specfiically in terms of evaluation) in New York City I would be most appreciative! FYI - a little background, I myself have suffered with a moderate depression for most of my life, though never had any learning or defiance issues. Now that my depression has lifted (natuarlly with yoga/meditation/affirmations) I am able to see more clearly that my son has issues that need to be addressed. I worry my own mental health issues have made him the way he is. Thanks.